Coping with Anger Problems
Practical Tools for Coping with Anger in Wolverhampton
Part of coping with anger requires recognising that there are times when anger is appropriate and ‘normal’ as well as times when anger is simply an outburst that bears little relevance to the situation in which it arises. Everybody gets angry at times in their lives but anger becomes a problem when it is ‘inappropriate’ or becomes destructive to other people or indeed to yourself.
Anger that is pointed ‘outwards’ towards other people is the least damaging to your own psychological health, but can be pretty unpleasant when those people are on the receiving end of it. Of course, you’ve only got to meet somebody who is not prepared to accept you ‘venting’ your anger on them to expose yourself to a whole range of associated problems, such as getting ‘punched’ or having a loved-one leave you.
Un-expressed, or bottled-up anger, is a lot less harmful to those in or around your life, but is pretty harmful to you, even more so if your bottled-up anger is also inappropriate! For example, you might get angry with yourself for not ‘being perfect’ and feel that making the smallest of errors means that you are justified in being angry with yourself. In this particular case the justification for being angry is based on the distorted belief that you MUST be faultless or perfect.
Our focus in coping with anger problems is by helping people to modify their core limiting belief systems so that anger is not under-pinned by beliefs that make it justified.
Coping with Anger – Key Ideas
If you want to be better at coping with anger then there are a number of key points worth understanding:
- Anger is a normal human reaction to a range of events and in many cases is reasonable and understandable
- It is not possible, or sensible, to desire a life that is 100% free of any kind of anger
- Anger is often built upon the idea that ‘life is not fair’ or that you have not been ‘treated with fairness’
- Sometime people experience anger when they are trying to ‘control’ external events or other peoples feelings
- Many people believe that ‘events’ make them angry, but this is not true – we can choose how to respond
- Coping with anger is most effective when dealt with at the core, fundamental level (our beliefs)
Coping with Anger By Controlling Your Responses
The most effective and sustainable way of coping with anger is by learning how to manage your thinking processes more effectively. The fact is that we ‘create’ the angry ‘response’ through cognitive, or ‘thinking’, processes based on what we believe is happening, or about to happen ‘to us’.
So one of the key concepts for coping with anger is recognising that YOU are the architect of this feeling – its NOT simply happening to you, you creating it in the first place. This is GOOD news because you can also learn how to un-create it (or simply not create it in the first place).
Coping with Anger by Thriving
We do not know of any better method of coping with anger than by following the Thrive Programme with Paul here at Tranceform Psychology. Thrive provides a totally new way of dealing with ‘mental health problems’ that is not based on the medico-psychiatric-model of ‘disorders’ and ‘illnesses’. There is plenty of research indicating that ‘labelling’ people as ‘mentally ill’ not only causes additional problems, but also leads people to feeling ‘powerless’ when it comes to solving the problems associated with anger.
Read our post ‘psychiatric diagnosis, fact or fiction‘ to find out more.
The Thrive Programme for Coping with Anger
Thrive is an evidence-based training programme that uses applied psychology principles to help you understand and then change any unhelpful thinking styles and limiting beliefs that have an adverse impact on your ability to cope with anger.
Over the course of ten one-hourly sessions you will learn about and develop personal insight into how your core beliefs have either helped or hindered you over your life course and then how to use a range of proven scientific methods to bring about changes so that you can begin coping with anger rather than the need to vent it on yourself or other people.
Watch the Thrive Video Below
FREE Initial Consultations for Coping with Anger
We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about coping with anger using the Thrive Programme.
During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss how Thrive works, why it is different and what’s involved.
At TranceForm we believe that therapy & coaching should be a collaboration between therapist and client so it’s very important to be able to meet PRIOR to agreeing any kind of help. Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
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