Control Issues Counselling
Mental Health Counselling for Control Issues – Available in Wolverhampton and Online Throughout the Rest of the World.
When people have control issues they tend to spend a disproportionate amount of time and effort trying to ensure that things go according to their plans or in a predictable way.
This may be expressed as behaviours in which they try to control what other people do (act in a controlling way) or alternatively, by becoming obsessed about detail or what might seem to others to be unecessary details or conditions (obsessive behaviour).
People having these types of traits have what is called a high desire for control and are ultimately seeking to minimise the unpredictability of life which cannot, of course, be predicted!
In this sense, people with control issues are attempting to control the ‘uncontrollable’ and will inevitably fail.
The paradox of control issues
OCD is a mental health problem directly linked to control issues and almost always associated with routine and patterns of behaviour such as checking door locks multiple times to ensure that they are properly locked (in fact the door is no more locked on the 50th check than it was on the 1st check!) or cleaning the house three times a day to make sure that any unexpected visitors will only ever see an immaculate house.
The problem with all of these control issues is that the person doing them believes that they are ‘in control’ whereas in reality they are clearly ‘out of control’. Standing outside your house to 20 minutes whilst you check the door lock 100 times is not being in control at all.
Control issues, desire for control and locus of control
Having a high desire for control is not of itself an unhelpful trait, provided that you only try to control things that are controllable and that you believe that you have the skills and resources to get a positive result out of your effort.
There is very little point in spending five hours a day trying to control the weather as your chances of success are ZERO.
On the other hand, if you spend five hours a day trying to control any unhelpful thoughts that you might be having with a view to improving your mental health, then that might be worth doing as your chances of sucess are pretty good.
If you have a high desire for control and a very external locus of control, then it is likely that you are going to experience lots of anxiety. The locus of control measures how much you believe that it is yourself that determines your own life outcomes (an internal locus of control) or that your life is largely determined by influences and powers outside of your sphere of influence (an external locus of control).
Of course, if you have an internal locus of control and a high desire for control then what you WANT and what you believe you can DO about things are very much aligned and less likely to result in anxiety.
Control issues as predicting the future
To a large extent, people with control issues are trying to predict future outcomes. If we consider the example of obsessively cleaning the house it generally turns out that the principal reason for cleaning so frequently is to try and ensure that if visitors unexpectedly turn-up (trying to predict an unplanned visit) that they will only be able to form a positive opinion of the house owner because the house is always immaculate (or it is whenver they turn-up). In this case, not only are they trying to predict unexpected visits, but they are also trying to ensure that visitors only ever have a postive opinion of them.
What’s wrong with peole having a negative opinion anyway?
Control Issues and Anxiety
Because control issues are almost always related to outcomes in the future, the predominant mental health problem that results from these types of behaviours in anxiety.
Anxiety is the emotional response to worrying about something that ‘might happen’ (is therefore in the future) rather than something that has happened (in the past).
Help for Control Issues
Not do we only offer a wide range of Psychological Therapies for mental health problems such as Control Issues, but you can also purchase our own self-help book, the Restrictive Realities of Belief written by Paul who is an academic psychologist with more than 30 years experience of working in people development.
This book is designed to provide you with all of the essential knowledge and latest research into mental health counselling as well as a practical set of tools and techniques for making real changes.
Transform Your Thinking & Overcome Control Issues
If you’re committed to overcoming your Control Issues then we highly recommend following our Advanced Tranceformental CBT programme with Paul. Tranceformental CBT is available as Online Therapy if required.
The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic mental health counselling course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
Alternative Therapy Options for Control Issues
Although our preferred form of mental health counselling for Control Issues is Tranceformental CBT we also offer alternative Psychotherapies for those who might prefer a different approach.
- Psychodynamic therapy which focuses more on emotional problems and relies on the Therapeutic Relationship to bring about change. Available with Paul.
- General Counselling which is less structured but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment to discuss issues which is therapeutic in its own right.
- Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of therapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.
Free Initial Consultations for Control Issues
We offer all prospective clients an initial consultation to discuss your Control Issues prior to commencing any treatment plans.
The consultation is free and lasts around 50 minutes.
During this consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
Initial consultations are also available as part of our online therapy service.
At Tranceform Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.
Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
Buy Our Self-Help Book
The Restrictive Realities of Belief is Paul's recently authored self-help book containing everything you need to know about how mental health problems are 'realised' through the socio-cultural beliefs that we acquire over our lifetimes and what you can do to bring about effective change.
You can read a synopsis of what this book is all about on this page:
It is currently available as a 307 page A4 PDF file for just £19.99 which you can purchase here using PayPal. Your copy of the book will be sent by e-mail.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a proven, evidence-based form of mental health counselling for developing a fundamental understanding of the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.
The full course costs £795 which you can pay for on our fees page.
Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.
Visit Online Counselling for more details.
Contact Joan Lee D. Hyp. MIAEBP
I specialise in the following therapies:
I also offer a complete programme which combines mindfulness, meditation and hypnotherapy
Call Joan on: 07434 776504