Fear of Being Alone
The Fear of Being Alone is technically known as Autophobia and is most common in more elderly people.
It has almost certainly been exacerbated by the social isolation rules imposed during the 2020/21 Coronavirus pandemic.
This phobia may also be experienced by people who worry about things happening to them if they are left alone, for example in the case of burglary during the night.
In general, it is widely recognised in psychology that people NEED a certain degree of social interaction in order to remain mentally healthy, so a certain amount of concern about being alone is completely understandable.
Whilst the feared object or situation may seem, to other people, to be ‘ridiculous’ or ‘silly’, the person who suffers from Autophobia knows only too well that the Anxiety that they experience is real enough.
We completely understand this here at TranceForm Psychology and will treat you and your Fear of Being Alone seriously and with ‘unconditional positive regard’.
It has long been understood within the world of psychology that our minds are more than capable of producing a real biological reaction to any given situation and so as long as the Autophobia sufferer “believes” that the object or situation they fear represents a real danger to them, then they will experience real fear with all of the associated symptoms.
This ‘reaction’ itself is not ‘faulty’ – the problem isn’t the Anxiety that is experienced, but the ‘idea’ or ‘thoughts’ that go into creating this reaction!
The greater majority of people who suffer with the Fear of Being Alone readily accept that their fear is “irrational” but continue to experience it regardless of this knowledge.
It is important to understand, therefore, that despite the severity and strength of the negative emotional experience that the Fear of Being Alone might produce inside you, that it is 100% created by your thinking and not by the external object or environment itself.
This idea is known as ‘constructionism’ and is particularly well understood.
Fear of Being Alone Symptoms
The symptoms of the Fear of Being Alone are very similar to other specific phobias and will often include:
- Always putting others first
- Panic attacks
- Constantly striving for attention
- Problems Concentrating
- Being quick tempered
- Feelings of dizziness
- Being overly generous to people
- Aches & Pains
- Dry and Sticky mouth
- Sweating Excessively
- Migraines and Headaches
Autophobia Symptoms are generally automatic and uncontrollable and can seem to take over a person’s thoughts which frequently leads to extreme measures being taken to avoid the feared object or situation, what are known as “Safety” or “Avoidance” behaviours.
Unfortunately, for the sufferer, these safety behaviours have a paradoxical effect and actually reinforce the Fear of Being Alone rather than solve it!
Your Fear of Being Alone may be the result of negative experiences that can be either directly or indirectly linked to the object or situational fear.
Over time, these symptoms can become “normalised” and “accepted” as limiting beliefs in that person’s life – “you have learnt to live with it.”
In just as many cases, Autophobia may have become worse over time as more and more sophisticated avoidance behaviours and routines are developed.
The good news is that the vast majority of people who suffer with a Fear of Being Alone will find that a course of Psychological Therapy will help enormously by helping to change the fundamental thinking contributing to the problem in the first place
Psychological Therapy for the Fear of Being Alone
If you’re determined to overcome your Fear of Being Alone then we highly recommend following our Advanced Tranceformental CBT programme with Paul which is available as an Online Therapy as well as a self-directed programme.
The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic mental health counselling course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
Alternative Therapy Options for the Fear of Being Alone
Although our preferred form of mental health counselling for the Fear of Being Alone is our Tranceformental CBT programme, we also offer alternative psychotherapies for those who might prefer a different approach.
- Psychodynamic therapy which focuses more on emotional problems and relies on the Therapeutic Relationship to bring about change. Available with Paul.
- General Counselling which is less structured but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment to discuss issues which is therapeutic in its own right.
- Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of therapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.
Free Initial Consultations for the Fear of Being Alone
We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial consultation to discuss your Fear of Being Alone prior to commencing any treatment plans.
During this consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
Initial consultations are also available online using Zoom by prior arrangement.
At Tranceform Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.
Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
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