Fear of Sex
There is also a phobia about the fear of sexual intercourse called Genophobia.
Sex is a perfectly normal human activity and the fear of sex tends to be related to either (1) fear and worries about one’s own performance or what the experience of sex might be like, or (2) fears related to feelings of guilt that have been created through the moral standards of other people, local cultural beliefs or religious ideologies.
Because sex is of such a personal nature many people fail to address sexual problems because of feelings of embarrassment, but most good psychological therapists are fully aware of the nature of sexual issues and can offer empathetic solutions.
Whilst the feared object or situation may seem, to other people, to be ‘ridiculous’ or ‘silly’, the person who suffers from Erotophobia knows only too well that the Anxiety that they experience is real enough.
You can read more about phobias in general here.
We completely understand this here at TranceForm Psychology and will treat you and your Fear of Sex seriously and with ‘unconditional positive regard’.
It has long been understood that our minds are more than capable of producing a real biological reaction to any given situation and so as long as the Erotophobia sufferer “believes” that the object or situation they fear represents a real danger to them, then they will experience real fear with all of the associated symptoms.
This ‘reaction’ itself is not ‘faulty’ – the problem isn’t the Anxiety that is experienced, but the ‘idea’ or ‘thoughts’ that go into creating this reaction!
It is important to understand, therefore, that despite the severity and strength of the negative emotional experience that the Fear of Sex might produce inside you, that it is 100% created by your thinking and not by the external object or environment itself.
Fear of Sex Symptoms
The symptoms of the Fear of Sex are very similar to other specific phobias and will often include:
- Avoidance of intimacy
- Panic attacks
- Inability to Relax
- Problems Concentrating
- Being quick tempered
- Feelings of dizziness
- Prickly sensations
- Aches & pains
- Dry and Sticky mouth
- Sweating Excessively
- Migraines and Headaches
Erotophobia Symptoms are generally automatic and uncontrollable and can seem to take over a person’s thoughts which frequently leads to extreme measures being taken to avoid the feared object or situation, what are known as “Safety” or “Avoidance” behaviours.
Unfortunately, for the sufferer, these safety behaviours have a paradoxical effect and actually reinforce the Fear of Sex rather than solve it!
Your Fear of Sex may be the result of negative experiences that can be either directly or indirectly linked to the object or situational fear.
Over time, these symptoms can become “normalised” and “accepted” as limiting beliefs in that person’s life – “you have learnt to live with it.”
In just as many cases, Erotophobia may have become worse over time as more and more sophisticated avoidance behaviours and routines are developed.
The good news is that the vast majority of people who suffer with a Fear of Sex will find that a course of Psychological Therapy will help enormously by helping to change the fundamental thinking contributing to the problem in the first place!
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Psychological Therapy for the Fear of Sex
If you’re determined to overcome your Fear of Sex then we highly recommend following our Advanced Tranceformental CBT programme with Paul which is available as an Online Therapy as well as a self-directed programme.
The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic psychotherapy course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
Alternative Therapy Options for the Fear of Sex
Although our preferred form of psychotherapy for the Fear of Sex is our Tranceformental CBT programme, we also offer alternative psychotherapies for those who might prefer a different approach.
- Psychodynamic therapy which focuses more on emotional problems and relies on the Therapeutic Relationship to bring about change. Available with Paul.
- General Counselling which is less structured but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment to discuss issues which is therapeutic in its own right.
- Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of therapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.
Free Initial Consultations for the Fear of Sex
We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial consultation to discuss your Fear of Sex prior to commencing any treatment plans.
During this consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
Initial consultations are also available online using Zoom by prior arrangement.
At Tranceform Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.
Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
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