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Low Sex Drive Counselling

Mental Health Counselling for Low Sex Drive in Wolverhampton and Online

It is estimated that 1 in 5 couples will suffer from a low sex drive, or low Libido at least once in their lifetimes and this problem can have a significant impact on the quality of a relationship, particularly if it is ‘interpreted’ by one of the partners as being indicative of their ‘desireability’.

Experts agree that one of the main reasons of this low sex drive is the hectic pace that lives in modern society are lived at.

With more money worries and a higher incidence of stress & anxiety problems it seems hardly surprising that our sexual libidos are affected.

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During the early stages of a relationship it can seem like we can’t get enough sex but as life goes on and our relationships mature these feelings of desire can ebb naturally.

For couples who are not aware of this fact it can be incorrectly interpreted as meaning that something is wrong in the relationship or that one partner “loves the other less than before”.

The fact is that there is a close link between a low sex drive and the levels of stress and anxiety that we are “subjected to” and as we learn, through the right kind of therapy, to cope or deal more effectively with these stresses and strains, the more our interest in sex can return to normal.

What kinds of symptoms can produce this low sex drive?

Men and women can both be affected by a loss of interest in sex and it is important not to associate this loss of libido with anything about your “personal attractiveness” which unfortunately is all too often what happens.

There are a number of problems that have been clearly identified as having a negative impact on our level of interest in sex and although the list below is not exhaustive, it does cover the main factors affecting libido:

  • Erectile Dysfunction – Although it may seem very obvious, when Erectile Dysfunction strikes it can sometimes make a man feel so “inadequate” that rather than trying to overcome the ED problem it is “translated” into a the belief that there is a problem in the relationship and that it is a symptom of a loss of interest in sex (rather than the thing that may be producing it!)
  • Relationship Problems – If there are some underlying troubles within the relationship that remain unspoken or simply are not being dealt with then this can have a negative impact on your interest is sex. Sometimes it can be relatively minor irritations such as a partner’s lack of personal hygiene, feelings that one partner is working harder than the other or that one has become lazy. These problems can generally be fairly easily dealt with through improved communication, perhaps by seeking help for improved self-confidence.
  • Stress – Any Stress in your life can produce this negative effect on your sex life. Stress can be present at work, from money problems, due to the loss of a loved one, a new job, an impending presentation at which you might have to speak publicly or many other factors. Stress can easily result in a loss of interest in sex.
  • Low Self-Esteem – If you have developed a low opinion of yourself and don’t feel like you are a valuable person then it can often be difficult to believe that you could be sexually attractive to another person. Under these circumstances your mind can modify this low self esteem into a lowering of sexual desire
  • Depression – Depressive disorders and depressed feeling can have a major impact on your interest in sex. When we become withdrawn from those around us our minds can move into a “survival” mode during which all sexual desire diminishes.
  • Alcohol Abuse and Drug Abuse – drug or alcohol use can become a primary focus for those people unable to contain their “addictive behaviour”. When these become the primary focus in life it can lead to less and less time thinking about sex, or to that matter, anything else. Drug and Alcohol abuse can disguise an underlying personality problem which may in itself be a cause of worry when trying to communicate or attract a new partner. Men or women may get drunk before building up the “courage” to ask somebody out on a date and alcohol, in fact, reduces Libido.

A low sex drive is also one of the known side-effects of anti-depressants and some other prescription drugs.

Therapy for a Low Sex Drive

Often, the solution to a low sex drive lies in solving the cause of the problem; any of those listed above.

The choice of therapy will be determined by the severity of those symptoms and the length of time you have been suffering.

If your thinking has become “distorted” about the problem (rather than you having had direct negative experiences) then you would probably benefit more from following our Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Programme which is designed to help you gain an understanding into those thought patterns, and then provides you with the practical tools to modify your belief systems & thinking styles to bring about changes.

Transform Your Thinking & Overcome a Low Sex Drive

If you’re committed to overcoming your lack of sex drive problems then we highly recommend following our Advanced Tranceformental CBT programme with Paul. Tranceformental CBT is available as Online Therapy if required.

The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic mental health counselling course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.

Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.

Alternative Therapy Options for Low Sex Drive

Although our preferred form of mental health counselling for a low sex drive is Tranceformental CBT we also offer alternative psychotherapies for those who might prefer a different approach.

These include:

  • Psychodynamic therapy which focuses more on emotional problems and relies on the Therapeutic Relationship to bring about change. Available with Paul.
  • General Counselling which is less structured but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment to discuss issues which is therapeutic in its own right.
  • Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of therapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.

Initial Consultations for Low Sex Drive

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We offer all prospective clients an initial consultation to discuss your low libido prior to commencing any treatment plans.

The consultation is free and lasts around 50 minutes.

During this consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

Initial consultations are also available as part of our online therapy service.

At TranceForm Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.

Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.

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Other Sexual Problems

We offer counselling for a number of other common sexual problems which you can access here:

Anorgasmia

Erectile Dysfunction

Genophobia

Porn Addiction

Premature Ejaculation

Sex Addiction

Performance Anxiety

Vaginismus

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For most mental health problems we recommend following our 10 session Tranceformental CBT Programme to overcome a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a proven, evidence-based form of mental health counselling for developing a fundamental understanding of the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.

The full course costs £795 which you can pay for on our fees page.

Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.

Visit Online Counselling for more details.

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Hi, I have both Bachelor's and Master's degrees in Psychology & specialise in the following therapeutic modalities:

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Psychodynamic Therapy

Call me on 07434 776125

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I specialise in the following therapies:

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Brain Working Recursive Therapy

Analytical Therapy

I also offer a complete programme which combines mindfulness, meditation and hypnotherapy

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