Fear of Happiness – Cherophobia
The fear of Happiness is also known as Cherophobia and is most frequently associated with people who have had disruptive relationship break-ups, or those people who may have fractured attachment styles as a result of problems during their early developmental years.
Most of us are familiar with the idea that some people are ‘afraid to be happy’ and what this really means is that some people find it very hard to cope with loss and so develop a mental ‘strategy’ to avoid being happy so as to avoid becoming unhappy at some point (a paradox we know)!
A fear of happiness is often connected to some sort of loss in a person’s life and leads them to believe that if they try to NOT be happy then they will somehow minimise the chances of getting emotionally ‘hurt’.
Fear is the emotional experience that we have when we perceive there to be some sort of threat in our immediate location or context, or even that a threat may present itself in the future (anticipatory anxiety) and this is certainly true for somebody who has a fear of Happiness.
The important thing to be aware of is that we only need to perceive (believe) that something is a threat in order to trigger the fear reaction and just as importantly, what one person perceives to be a threat may not be regarded as threatening to somebody else.
In other words, the fear of Happiness is a highly individual experience based on the subjective belief that Happiness represents a threat to that individual.
Many people do not really understand or have a great deal of sympathy for people who suffer with the fear of Happiness as it may not be something they personally experience, however, for the person suffering this fear the stress and anxiety that they experience is real and not imagined.
We are fully aware of the subjective nature of individual fears and will treat you and your Fear of Happiness seriously when you consult us for help.
Fear of Happiness Symptoms
The symptoms associated with the fear of Happiness have much in common with other fears and phobias and may include:
- Anger problems
- Generalised Anxiety
- Social anxiety
- Control issues
- Feelings of depression
- Insomnia & sleeping problems
- Low Self-Esteem
- Low Self-Confidence
- Panic attacks
- Overthinking things
Often the symptoms of Cherophobia can seem to occur without the object of fear even being present indicating that the fear of Happiness has become normalised into everyday life.
This normalisation process often results in the development and use of safety behaviours in an attempt to prevent exposure to triggering events which, paradoxically, may cause the problem to get worse.
In other words, safety behaviours tend to reinforce the fear of Happiness rather than diminish it!
Cherophobia may be the result of earlier traumatic experiences that can be directly (or indirectly) linked to a specific object or situation, but this is not always the case because fears can also be inherited as learned behaviours from the social context in which a person is brought up.
The good news is that the majority of people who suffer with a fear of Happiness will find a course of psychotherapy highly beneficial.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) for the Fear of Happiness
T-CBT is a clinically proven psychotherapy course that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify any limiting beliefs and unhelpful thinking styles that you might have developed in order to cope, and then provide guidance on how to make changes to your thinking and behaviours to irradicate the problems.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy has an excellent track-record with problems based on anxiety and fearful cognitions (thoughts) which are key factors in the fear of Happiness.
Self-Help CBT Course for only £149!
Our online self-help CBT course has been designed to teach you the fundamental tools and techniques of clinically proven Cognitive Behavioural Therapy without having to see a therapist.
Structured over TEN, in-depth modules, this course will provide you everything you need to know to change the way you think about and experience your mental health problems from the comfort of your own home.
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Alternative Psychotherapies for the Fear of Happiness
Although we generally recommend CBT for Cherophobia, we also offer alternative psychotherapies for people preferring a different approach.
Counselling which is less formally structured than CBT but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment in which to discuss issues. Talking problems through with a skilled counsellor is often therapeutic in its own right.
Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of psychotherapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.
Free Initial Consultations for the Fear of Happiness
We offer all prospective clients FREE initial consultations to discuss your Cherophobia problems prior to commencing any psychotherapy programmes.
The consultation and lasts around 50 minutes.
During this consultation we will discuss the various solutions that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
Initial consultations are also available online.
We recognise the importance of the therapy relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so it is important to meet (either face-to-face or online) before deciding to follow a course of psychotherapy.
Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
Overcome Your Problems with our CBT Course
Our 10 session course of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is clinically proven to be effective across a range of different psychological problems.
Using an online learning platform, it is available with 2, 5 or 10 sessions of clinical support either face-to-face in the Wombourne offices, or using Zoom video facilities.
It can also be taken as a self help CBT course that will teach you the fundamental tools and techniques used throughout the mental health profession.