All About The fear of Love & How To Overcome it with CBT Therapy & Counselling in Wolverhampton & West Midlands
The fear of Love
The fear of Love is also known as Philophobia and may develop as a safety behaviour if you have experienced the loss of a close friend or relative, or if you have suffered a bad emotional break-up.
There are a wide range of reasons why a person might develop philophobia, including having a fractured attachment style, worrying about performing as a husband or wife or the fear of the responsibilities that might be expected as a parent.
The fear of love may also be related to Cherophobia (fear of being happy) as another way of avoiding ‘heartbreak’.
Fear is the emotional experience that we have when we perceive there to be some sort of threat in our immediate location or context, or even that a threat may present itself in the future (anticipatory anxiety) and this is certainly true for somebody who has a fear of Love.
People may not understand or have a great deal of sympathy for people who suffer with the fear of Love as it may not be something they personally experience, however, for the person suffering this fear the stress and anxiety that they experience is real and not imagined.
We are fully aware of the subjective nature of individual fears and will treat you and your Fear of Love seriously when you consult us for help.
Fear of Love Symptoms
The symptoms associated with the fear of Love have much in common with other fears and phobias and may include:
- Generalised Anxiety
- Social anxiety
- Control issues
- Insomnia & sleeping problems
- Low Self-Esteem
- Panic attacks
Often the symptoms of Philophobia can seem to occur without the object of fear even being present indicating that the fear of Love has become normalised into everyday life.
This normalisation process often results in the development and use of safety behaviours in an attempt to prevent exposure to triggering events which, paradoxically, may cause the problem to get worse.
In other words, safety behaviours tend to reinforce the fear of Love rather than diminish it!
Philophobia may be the result of earlier traumatic experiences that can be directly (or indirectly) linked to a specific object or situation, but this is not always the case because fears can also be inherited as learned behaviours from the social context in which a person is brought up.
The good news is that the majority of people who suffer with a fear of Love will find a course of psychotherapy highly beneficial.
Therapy & Counselling for the Fear of Love
You can read more about the different types of psychological therapy for the fear of Love below.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) for the Fear of Love
T-CBT is a clinically proven psychotherapy course that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify any limiting beliefs and unhelpful thinking styles that you might have developed in order to cope, and then provide guidance on how to make changes to your thinking and behaviours to irradicate the problems.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy has an excellent track-record with problems based on anxiety and fearful cognitions (thoughts) which are key factors in the fear of Love.
Alternative Psychotherapies for the Fear of Love
Although we generally recommend CBT for Philophobia, we also offer alternative psychotherapies for people preferring a different approach.
Psychodynamic therapy which focuses on understanding why the problem has arisen and relies on the therapy relationship to bring about change.
Counselling which is less formally structured than CBT but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment in which to discuss issues. Talking problems through with a skilled counsellor is often therapeutic in its own right.
Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of psychotherapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.
Free Initial Consultations for the Fear of Love
We offer all prospective clients FREE initial consultations to discuss your Philophobia problems prior to commencing any psychotherapy programmes.
The consultation and lasts around 50 minutes.
During this consultation we will discuss the various solutions that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
Initial consultations are also available online.
We recognise the importance of the therapy relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so it is important to meet (either face-to-face or online) before deciding to follow a course of psychotherapy.
Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
Overcome Your Problems with our CBT Course
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is clinically proven to be effective across a range of different mental health problems.
Using our online learning platform, it is available with 2, 5 or 10 sessions of clinical support either face-to-face in the Wombourne offices, or using Zoom video facilities.
It can also be taken as a self help CBT course that will teach you the fundamental tools and techniques used throughout the mental health profession.
Areas We Serve
We offer mental health services, therapy & counselling for people living in:
- West Midlands
- South Staffordshire
For those living further afield, we also offer Online Therapy Services using Zoom.