Therapy for Genophobia the Fear of Sexual Intercourse
Genophobia is the fear of Sexual Intercourse and may be caused by a range of different ‘experiences’ in a persons life.
It is more commonly experienced by women but men are also known to develop this phobia too. There may also be cultural, religious or moral ‘beliefs’ leading to Genophobia problems.
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Whilst the feared object or situation may seem, to other people, to be ‘ridiculous’ or ‘silly’, the person who suffers from Genophobia knows only too well that the Anxiety that they experience is real enough.
We completely understand this here at TranceForm Psychology and will treat you and your Genophobia seriously.
For many years Psychologists have been aware that our minds are more than capable of producing a real biological reaction to any given situation and so as long as the Genophobia sufferer “believes” that the object or situation they fear represents danger to them, then they will experience real fear.
The majority of people who do suffer with Genophobia recognise that their fear is “irrational” but continue to experience it regardless of this knowledge. This is why simply being told to “snap out of it” rarely produces a solution!
The symptoms of Genophobia are very similar to other specific phobias and will often include:
- Avoiding intimacy
- Making excuses not to have sex
- Panic attacks
- Inability to Relax
- Problems Concentrating
- Being quick tempered
- Fatigued Muscles
- Dry and Sticky mouth
- Sweating Excessively
- Migraines and Headaches
- Poor Quality of Sleep
Genophobia Symptoms are generally automatic and uncontrollable and can seem to take over a person’s thoughts which frequently leads to extreme measures being taken to avoid the feared object or situation, what are known as “Safety” or “Avoidance” behaviours.
Unfortunately, for the sufferer, these safety behaviours have a paradoxical effect and actually reinforce the phobia rather than solve it!
Genophobia may be the result of negative emotional experiences that can be either directly or indirectly linked to the object or situational fear.
Over time, the symptoms often become “normalised” and “accepted” as limiting beliefs in that person’s life – “I’ve learnt to live with it.”
In just as many cases, Genophobia may have become worse over time as more and more sophisticated safety behaviours and routines are developed.
The good news is that the vast majority of people who suffer from Genophobia will find a course of Psychological Therapy helps enormously.
As with many psychological ‘problems’ there really is no single cause of Genophobia. Sexuality in human beings has long been a highly debated and controversial area of natural human existence. Religious ideology around the sex act may be attached to ‘shame’ and is frequently imbued with the idea that ‘sex should only be for reproduction’ rather than for pleasure.
People who believe (for whatever reason) that sex is somehow ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’ and more likely to trigger negative emotional responses when encountering a sexually intimate moment.
Within many different cultures, a great deal of ‘expectation’ may be ‘heaped’ onto couples to ‘produce grandchildren’ or ‘heirs’ and people may find this ‘pressure’ diminishes the value of the ‘intimacy’ of sexual union turning it into a ‘duty’ rather than a pleasurable experience leading to feelings that it is solely for the benefit of others and not the two people involved. This pressure to perform often presents itself as sexual performance anxiety.
Another potential cause of Genophobia is the fear of childbirth (Tokophobia). If a person becomes sufficiently worried about the idea of ‘painful’ childbirth then it is not too difficult to see how this might result in abstaining from sexual intercourse, or indeed seeing the sexual act as the problem itself.
Anybody who has suffered some form of abuse or ‘trauma’ associated with the sex act may also develop Genophobia, but this is by no means a definitive indicator. The Human mind is capable of creating an almost infinitely variable set of associations with this most ‘primitive’ biological ‘urge’ and so the range of potential causes is almost as infinite.
TranceForm Psychology is able to offer a range of different psychological treatments for Genophobia including both ‘cognitive’ (thinking) based talking therapies as well as therapies based on ’emotional’ content such as EMDR & Counselling.
We also offer psycho-dynamic approaches to therapy where much more emphasis is placed on the ‘relationship’ between the therapist and client as the fundamental ‘vehicle’ for change.
Cognitive Therapies such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and the Changing Limiting Beliefs (CLB) Programme tend to regard the symptoms of Genophobia as being due to ‘unhelpful thinking styles‘ or patterns of thinking that directly ‘create’ the ‘feelings’ of anxiety and stress when encountering the phobic object or situation. These types of therapy are often referred to as ‘brief’ or ‘directive’ therapies and tend to focus on the thinking that is occurring ‘now’ rather than as the result of a ‘past experience’.
This relationship between thinking (cognition) and feelings (behaviour) is the central pillar of these types of therapy and is supported by a substantial body of scientific evidence.
Psycho-Dynamic Therapies such as Psychoanalysis are fundamentally different to the cognitive approaches as they consider that events and influences experienced in the earlier formative lives of the person can cause, or at least “pre-dispose”, a person to suffer in a specific way in later life.
The aim of psychodynamic therapy is to help a person to explore, understand and resolve these causative issues following the doctrine of “cause and effect”. In these types of therapy, the relationship between the therapist and client is considered as an important factor in the solution to the problems.
You can read more about Psychodynamic Therapy V Directive Therapy approaches here.
FREE Initial Consultations for Genophobia
We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about your Genophobia.
During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
At TranceForm Psychology we believe that therapy should be a collaboration between therapist and client so it’s very important to be able to meet PRIOR to agreeing any kind of help.
Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
For most mental health issues we recommend following our 10 session Tranceformental CBT Programme (an advanced version of empirically established Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to overcome a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems.
CBT is a proven, evidence-based form of therapy for developing a fundamental level of understanding into the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.
Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.
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The Changing Limiting Beliefs Programme was a 'state-of-the-art' approach to overcoming mental health problems that is grounded in scientific principles and based on the subjective nature of reality.
Today Tranceform offer a course of evidence-based therapy based on an understanding of core beliefs and values called Tranceformental CBT.