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Psychological Therapy for Philophobia the Fear of Love

Philophobia is the Fear of Love and is most commonly due to having been hurt following the breakdown of a previous relationship, and so might be thought of as a Fear of being emotionally hurt.

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Philophobia may be the expression of the fear of ‘falling’ in love, particularly if this is supported by traumatic emotion break-ups in the past.

All phobias, regardless of what the feared object or circumstances are, produce feelings of Anxiety and Stress for the sufferer, and Philophobia is no different in this sense.

Whilst the feared object or situation may seem, to other people, to be ‘ridiculous’ or ‘silly’, the person who suffers from Philophobia knows only too well that the Anxiety that they experience is real enough.

We completely understand this here at TranceForm Psychology and will treat you and your Philophobia seriously.

For many years Psychologists have been aware that our minds are more than capable of producing a real biological reaction to any given situation and so as long as the Philophobia sufferer “believes” that the object or situation they fear represents danger to them, then they will experience real fear.

The majority of people who do suffer with Philophobia recognise that their fear is “irrational” but continue to experience it regardless of this knowledge. This is why simply being told to “snap out of it” rarely produces a solution!

Philophobia Symptoms

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The symptoms of Philophobia are very similar to other specific phobias and will often include:

  • Avoid relationships
  • Inability to Relax
  • Problems Concentrating
  • Being quick tempered
  • Feelings of dizziness
  • Prickly sensations like pins and needles
  • Palpitations
  • Aches & Pains
  • Fatigue
  • Dry and Sticky mouth
  • Sweating Excessively
  • Breathlessness
  • Migraines and Headaches

Philophobia Symptoms are generally automatic and uncontrollable and can seem to take over a person’s thoughts which frequently leads to extreme measures being taken to avoid the feared object or situation, what are known as “Safety” or “Avoidance” behaviours.

Unfortunately, for the sufferer, these safety behaviours have a paradoxical effect and actually reinforce the phobia rather than solve it!

Philophobia may be the result of negative emotional experiences that can be either directly or indirectly linked to the object or situational fear.

Over time, the symptoms often become “normalised” and “accepted” as limiting beliefs in that person’s life – “I’ve learnt to live with it.”

In just as many cases, Philophobia may have become worse over time as more and more sophisticated safety behaviours and routines are developed.

The good news is that the vast majority of people who suffer from Philophobia will find a course of Psychological Therapy helps enormously.

Philophobia Treatment

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TranceForm Psychology is able to offer a range of different psychological treatments for Philophobia including both ‘cognitive’ (thinking) based talking therapies as well as therapies based on ’emotional’ content such as EMDR & Analytical Therapy.

We also offer psycho-dynamic approaches to therapy where much more emphasis is placed on the ‘relationship’ between the therapist and client as the fundamental ‘vehicle’ for change.

Cognitive Therapies such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and the Changing Limiting Beliefs (CLB) Programme tend to regard the symptoms of Philophobia as being due to ‘unhelpful thinking styles‘ or patterns of thinking that directly ‘create’ the ‘feelings’ of anxiety and stress when encountering the phobic object or situation. These types of therapy are often referred to as ‘brief’ or ‘directive’ therapies and tend to focus on the thinking that is occurring ‘now’ rather than as the result of a ‘past experience’.

This relationship between thinking (cognition) and feelings (behaviour) is the central pillar of these types of therapy and is supported by a substantial body of scientific evidence.

Psycho-Dynamic Therapies such as Psychoanalysis are fundamentally different to the cognitive approaches as they consider that events and influences experienced in the earlier formative lives of the person can cause, or at least “pre-dispose”, a person to suffer in a specific way in later life.

The aim of psychodynamic therapy is to help a person to explore, understand and resolve these causative issues following the doctrine of “cause and effect”. In these types of therapy, the relationship between the therapist and client is considered as an important factor in the solution to the problems.

You can read more about Psychodynamic Therapy V Directive Therapy approaches here.

FREE Initial Consultations

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We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about your Philophobia problems or counselling needs. During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

Initial consultations are avalable using our Zoom online platform (see online therapy here) as well as in our offices in Wombourne.

At Tranceform Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapy relationship as being key to making any personal change or improvement, so it’s very important to be able to meet PRIOR to agreeing any kind of help.

In fact, research suggests that ‘most’ of the therapeutic benefits derived from counselling are due to the positive, unconditional relationship that is created during the therapy sessions rather than the specific ‘mode’ of therapy used.

Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications, without pressure or coercion.

For most mental health issues we recommend following our 10 session Tranceformental CBT Programme (an advanced version of empirically established Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to overcome a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems.

CBT is a proven, evidence-based form of therapy for developing a fundamental level of understanding into the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.

The full course costs £795 which you can pay for on our fees page - don't forget we offer a FREE initial consultation to all prospective clients.

Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.

Visit Online Counselling for more details.

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The Changing Limiting Beliefs Programme was a 'state-of-the-art' approach to overcoming mental health problems that is grounded in scientific principles and based on the subjective nature of reality.

Today Tranceform offer a course of evidence-based therapy based on an understanding of core beliefs and values called Tranceformental CBT.

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