Self-Esteem – A Core Limiting Belief
Self-Esteem – What It Is & How To Improve It
Is Self-Esteem really just a ‘belief’?
YES! Your self-esteem is what you believe (and feel) about yourself, and is just a belief system.
Many people find this difficult to believe and prefer to think of self-esteem as something that they are ‘born’ with and that cannot be changed.
This is not true and a little self reflection will probably allow you to think of times when you felt ‘great’ and ‘full of confidence’, for example, if you are married, wasn’t your wedding day a major highlight in your life? If you drive a car, wasn’t finally passing your test just the best thing that ‘ever happened’?
If you think about self-esteem in these terms, then you will probably realise that the way you feel and have felt about yourself over your life has probably changed frequently, from times when it was very low to other times when you felt ‘on top of the world’.
Many therapists and coaches believe that your self-esteem is actually only around TWO WEEKS old at any point in time.
Our beliefs-based course of CBT teaches you tools and techniques that can have a really dramatic effect on the way that you think and feel about yourself so that you can develop a high self-esteem for a greater period of time.
What Determines Self-Esteem?
People tend to believe that the events that happen to them drive their self-esteem, but we believe that there is a subtle ‘proviso’ to this assertion, and that the way that we ‘think and process’ the events that happen to us influences how we feel about ourselves arther than the events themselves.
This is the idea of an ‘internal locus of control‘.
One of the key activities that we encourage you to do when following the CLB Programme is to spend a certain amount of time each day thinking about (and ‘processing’) the positive experiences that you have had over the lest few days, or indeed in the last few hours.
Far too many people seem to spend a major proportion of their time (and lives) focusing all of their ‘thinking time’ to worrying about things that have gone ‘wrong’ or are ‘negative’.
This serves very little purpose apart from wasting a lot of time creating negative emotional responses from un-helpful thinking!
Low versus High Self-Esteem
- I feel like a bit of a failure
- I focus on my mistakes
- I am a perfectionist
- I feel uncomfortable when people compliment me
- Praising yourself is just wrong
- I feel confident in my abilities
- I dedicate time to thinking about what I’ve done well
- My best is good enough, even if it’s not perfect
- I appreciate positive comments from people
- It’s good to recognise your successes
Transform Your Thinking & Improve Self Esteem
Tranceformental CBT is available as Online Therapy if required
The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic psychological training course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
Free Initial Consultations for Self-esteem Issues
We offer all prospective clients an initial consultation to discuss your self-esteem issues prior to commencing any counselling.
The consultation is free and last around 50 minutes.
During this consultation we will discuss the various types of psychological therapy that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
Initial consultations are also available as part of our online counselling service.
At Tranceform Psychology we emphasise the importance of the therapy relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.
Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking mental health work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a proven, evidence-based form of mental health counselling for developing a fundamental understanding of the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.
The full course costs £795 which you can pay for on our fees page.
Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.
Visit Online Counselling for more details.
Contact Joan Lee D. Hyp.
I specialise in the following therapies:
I also offer a complete programme which combines mindfulness, mediation and hypnotherapy
Call Joan on: 07434 776504