All or Nothing Thinking

All or nothing thinking is also known as ‘black or white’ thinking in that a person with these thinking errors tends to see things in these two polar opposite terms – things are either ‘fantastic’ or ‘dire’, people either ‘love me’ or ‘hate me’ and I’m a ‘success’ or a ‘failure’.

This type of thinking can lead directly to extreme emotions and behaviours and is one of the most common thinking errors we come across in the clinic.

Examples of All or Nothing Thinking

You’re on a diet and have decided to eat more healthily. You’re doing really well for the first two weeks but on Saturday you ‘caved-in’ and ate a doughnut. All or nothing thinkers are likely to conclude the the whole diet is a complete failure and you might as well go and eat the other five doughnuts in the pack.

You’re studying for your degree and with only two modules to go to graduate you fail a module. All or nothing thinking leads you to decide the the entire idea is a bad one and that you’re just not good enough to get a degree and it’s all been a waste of time.

Managing All or Nothing Thinking

Try to see your thinking patterns more like how a thermometer works. A thermometer doesn’t indicate just ‘hot’ or ‘cold’, but instead gives you the temperature in a wide range of degrees with ‘freezing’ sitting at one end at zero degrees, ‘boiling’ at another end at one hundred degrees and then ninety eight other readings that are neither boiling or freezing!

Be Realistic

Nobody gets through life without ever making a mistake. One doughnut doesn’t ruin a diet or mean your eat unhealthily. Refocus on your goal, forgive yourself for this minor mishap and get back onto your diet.

Develop ‘Both-And’ Thinking

All or nothing thinking excludes two opposites by definition, so try to develop the reasoning skills to accept that opposites can co-exist.

You can BOTH be on a diet AND still eat the odd doughnut.

You can BOTH get a degree AND fail a module or two along the way.

All or nothing thinking has the ability to sabotage even the best thought-out goal seeking activity as you are far more likely to quit if the slightest ‘hiccup’ is interpreted as being a ‘complete failure’.

Transform Your Thinking & Overcome All or Nothing Thinking

If you’re committed to overcoming your All or Nothing Thinking problems then we highly recommend following our Advanced Tranceformental CBT programme with Paul. Tranceformental CBT is available as Online Therapy if required.

The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic mental health counselling course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your All or Nothing Thinking or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.

Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.

Alternative Therapy Options for All or Nothing Thinking

Although our preferred form of mental health counselling for All or Nothing Thinking is Tranceformental CBT we also offer alternative psychotherapies for those who might prefer a different approach.

These include:

• Psychodynamic therapy which focuses more on emotional problems and relies on the Therapeutic Relationship to bring about change. Available with Paul.
• General Counselling which is less structured but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment to discuss issues which is therapeutic in its own right.
• Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of therapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.

Free Initial Consultations for All or Nothing Thinking

We offer all prospective clients an initial consultation to discuss your All or Nothing Thinking prior to commencing any treatment plans.

The consultation is free and lasts around 50 minutes.

During this consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

Initial consultations are also available as part of our online therapy service.

At TranceForm Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.

Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.