Imperative Thinking Errors
Mental Health Counselling for Imperative Thinking Errors – Available in Wolverhampton and Online
To understand Imperative Thinking we can turn to Albert Ellis, founder of REBT, who emphasised that ‘demands’ lie at the very heart of emotional problems. The thoughts and beliefs that contain words such as ‘must’, ‘need’, ‘should, ‘ought-to’ and ‘got-to’ can be problematic as they are rigid and inflexible leading to poor adaptation to reality.
Aaron Beck, founder of Cognitive Therapy, described this ‘imperative’ use of language as MUSTerbation!
The use of these imperative thinking styles can lead directly to unhelpful perceptions, for example:
- You believe that you must have the approval of your friends and work colleagues so your social behaviours become focused on doing what ever it is that gets approval, even if this is at your own personal expense.
- You believe that as YOU try so very hard to be kind and considerate to other people that others really ought to treat you the same. Unfortunately as people tend to develop their own rules and regulations for how this lead their own lives, this can lead you to have very unrealistic expectations and feel hurt or let-down when others don’t behave the way YOU do.
- You believe that you should never let other people down and as a result tend to put your own needs last and other people needs first. This often leads to stress and anxiety when people don’t put YOU first.
Challenge Imperative Thinking
These inflexible rules and demands would be better replaced with more flexible thinking styles such as:
Pay attention to language
Try to replace words like ‘must’, ‘need’ and ‘should’ with words like ‘prefer’, ‘want’ and ‘could’.
Reduce approval seeking
Could your life be worthwhile even if you don’t get the approval of everybody that you seek it from? If you try to think of your need for approval rather more like a preference for approval then you are likely to feel much less stressed when it is not given.
Recognise that people have different rules for life
Your rules are unique to you, and no matter how much you believe that they are ‘universally true’, if you allow other people the right to have and use their own rules, then you can feel less ‘let down’ when they fail to meet your ‘standards’.
Focus on what you would LIKE not what you think you NEED
If you think about the things that you would actually like to have in your life, or how you would like life to ‘be’ then you will be able to develop much more meaningful strategies that could help you achieve these aims rather then become depressed about how you think it should be.
Furthermore, people who WANT to achieve something are significantly more motivated than those people who think that they NEED to achieve something!
Transform Your Thinking & Overcome Imperative Thinking Errors
Tranceformental CBT is available as Online Therapy if required
The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic psychological training course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
Initial Consultations for Imperative Thinking
We offer all prospective clients an initial consultation to discuss your imperative thinking problems prior to commencing any treatment plans.
The consultation is free and last around 50 minutes
Why not drop us an e-mail to find out if we can help before arranging your initial assessment or, if you prefer, leave us a message on our Facebook page: facebook.com/tranceformational/ and we’ll get back to you to arrange a mutual date and time.
During this consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
Initial consultations are also available as part of our online therapy service.
At TranceForm Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.
Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a proven, evidence-based form of mental health counselling for developing a fundamental understanding of the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.
The full course costs £795 which you can pay for on our fees page.
Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.
Visit Online Counselling for more details.
Contact Joan Lee D. Hyp.
I specialise in the following therapies:
I also offer a complete programme which combines mindfulness, mediation and hypnotherapy
Call Joan on: 07434 776504