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Personalisation Thinking Errors

Mental Health Counselling for Personalisation Thinking Errors – Available in Wolverhampton and Online

Personalising involves interpreting external events as though they are directly related to you or what you have done rather than being attributed to other factors.

The problem with personalising events is that it can lead to feelings of guilt and a tendency to get upset very easily as you see things as your fault. At worst, it can lead to paranoid thoughts.

Examples of Personalisation

You feel guilty when your friend is upset and you don’t seem to be able to make them feel better. You think to yourself ‘ If I was a better friend I’d know just what to say to cheer them up. Obviously I’ve offended them in some way’.

You feel upset when you bump into a friend in the local shopping centre after she only gives you a cursory ‘hello’ and rushes off. You conclude that you have done something to make them unhappy with you.

How to Stop Personalising

Try to think of alternative possibilities that DON’T involve you directly, for example:

Alternative Contributory Factors

Perhaps your friend has been suffering with Depression or Anxiety that you didn’t know about, or perhaps they just had some bad news about a family member. There could be a million other possible reasons why they seem inconsolable, and most of those will be completely outside of your control or influence.

Consider Why People Might Respond To You In These Ways

Don’t jump to the immediate conclusion that the way people respond is directly related to you. You really don’t know what they’re feeling or thinking and they may even be feeling really bad about rushing off without stopping to talk to you. They may simply be having their own bad day.

Remember, it’s not really all about you, nobody inhabits the centre of the universe, so try to consider the wider range of possibilities beyond yourself.

Transform Your Thinking & Overcome Personalisation Errors

If you’re committed to overcoming your personalisation problems then we highly recommend following either our Advanced Tranceformental CBT programme with Paul, or Joan.

Tranceformental CBT is available as Online Therapy if required

The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic psychological training course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.

Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.

Initial Consultations for Personalisation Issues

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We offer all prospective clients an initial consultation to discuss your personalisation problems prior to commencing any treatment plans.

The consultation is free and last around 50 minutes

Why not drop us an e-mail to find out if we can help before arranging your initial assessment or, if you prefer, leave us a message on our Facebook page: facebook.com/tranceformational/ and we’ll get back to you to arrange a mutual date and time.




During this consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

Initial consultations are also available as part of our online therapy service.

At TranceForm Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.

Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.

For most mental health problems we recommend following our 10 session Tranceformental CBT Programme to overcome a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a proven, evidence-based form of mental health counselling for developing a fundamental understanding of the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.

The full course costs £795 which you can pay for on our fees page.

Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.

Visit Online Counselling for more details.

Contact Paul Lee BSc. MSc.

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I specialise in the following areas:

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Analytical Therapy

I also offer a complete programme which combines mindfulness, mediation and hypnotherapy

Complete Wellness Programme

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