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Personalisation

Personalisation involves interpreting external events as though they are directly related to you or what you have done rather than being attributed to other factors.

The problem with personalising events is that it can lead to feelings of guilt and a tendency to get upset very easily as you see things as your fault. At worst, it can lead to paranoid thoughts.

Examples of Personalisation

You feel guilty when your friend is upset and you don’t seem to be able to make them feel better. You think to yourself ‘ If I was a better friend I’d know just what to say to cheer them up. Obviously I’ve offended them in some way’.

You feel upset when you bump into a friend in the local shopping centre after she only gives you a cursory ‘hello’ and rushes off. You conclude that you have done something to make them unhappy with you.

How to Stop Personalising

Try to think of alternative possibilities that DON’T involve you directly, for example:

Alternative Contributory Factors

Perhaps your friend has been suffering with Depression or Anxiety that you didn’t know about, or perhaps they just had some bad news about a family member. There could be a million other possible reasons why they seem inconsolable, and most of those will be completely outside of your control or influence.

Consider Why People Might Respond To You In These Ways

Don’t jump to the immediate conclusion that the way people respond is directly related to you. You really don’t know what they’re feeling or thinking and they may even be feeling really bad about rushing off without stopping to talk to you. They may simply be having their own bad day.

Remember, it’s not really all about you, nobody inhabits the centre of the universe, so try to consider the wider range of possibilities beyond yourself.

Transform Your Thinking & Overcome Personalisation Problems

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If you’re committed to overcoming your Personalisation problems then we highly recommend following our Advanced Tranceformental CBT programme with Paul. Tranceformental CBT is available as Online Therapy if required.

The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic mental health counselling course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your Personalisation or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.

Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.

Alternative Therapy Options for Personalisation

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Although our preferred form of mental health counselling for Personalisation issues is Tranceformental CBT we also offer alternative psychotherapies for those who might prefer a different approach.

These include:

  • Psychodynamic therapy which focuses more on emotional problems and relies on the Therapeutic Relationship to bring about change. Available with Paul.
  • General Counselling which is less structured but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment to discuss issues which is therapeutic in its own right.
  • Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of therapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.

Free Initial Consultations for Personalisation

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We offer all prospective clients an initial consultation to discuss your Personalisation problems prior to commencing any treatment plans.

The consultation is free and lasts around 50 minutes.

During this consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

Initial consultations are also available as part of our online therapy service.

At TranceForm Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.

Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.

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Overcome Your Mental Health difficulties with Our Online CBT Programme - From Only £299!

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is clinically proven to be effective for a range of mental health problems and can be carried out in the comfort of your own home.

Structured over TEN, in-depth modules, our advanced CBT course will teach you everything you need to know to change the way you think about and experience your problems without having to spend a fortune.

The course is available with 2, 5 or 10 sessions of clinical support in-clinic or using Zoom.

Click Tranceformental CBT to find out more.

Also available as a self-directed course without any clinical support for just £149.

Get in touch with us.

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