Processing Positive Experiences
Why Processing Positive Experiences is SO Important
Failing to take full and proper account of any positive experiences in your life can lead you to automatically disqualify experiences that would normally contribute to your health and mental well-being. This is something that we encounter on a daily basis here at the TranceForm clinic and we never ceased to be amazed by how many people seem to totally ignore the incredible things they achieve everyday!
If you only measure success by the number of Nobel Peace prizes that have been awarded, then it’s unlikely that the global population ever achieve anything. If, on the other hand, you measure success by getting to the top of a steep hill, then everybody can succeed and feel great about it. It’s a matter of perspective!
Examples of Disqualifying Positive Experiences
You believe that you’re worthless and talentless. When you get promoted at work you think to yourself, ‘This really doesn’t count because anybody could do this job’. As a result you feel disappointed rather than feeling pleased.
You tell yourself that you’re pathetic. When a friend tells you that you’ve been a really good and valuable friend you disqualify the experience by telling yourself that, ‘He’s only saying that because he feels sorry for me which proves just how pathetic I really am.’
Change the Filter
Rather than automatically consigning everyday positive events or compliments to the ‘meaningless’ bin, try to develop a new habit of actually noting down the experiences that made you feel good. Try the following:
Become Aware of Your ‘Positive’ Filter
Try to think about the experiences that you automatically ‘write-off’ and try to accept compliments with less criticism. Isn’t it possible that you got promotes at work because (1) you really are that skilled, and (2) you’ve worked hard and thoroughly deserve it?
Accept the Gift of Compliments
Rather than rejecting the nice things that friends and colleagues say to you learn to accept them like a nice gift with a simple ‘Thank You’. We often believe that our friends don’t really know us and that only we know our own true value, but in reality, our own self-perception is almost always the most distorted one!
Transform Your Thinking & Begin Processing Positive Experiences
Tranceformental CBT is available as Online Therapy if required
The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic psychological training course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
We offer all prospective clients an initial consultation to discuss your problems prior to commencing any treatment plans.
The consultation is free and last around 50 minutes
Why not drop us an e-mail to find out if we can help before arranging your initial assessment or, if you prefer, leave us a message on our Facebook page: facebook.com/tranceformational/ and we’ll get back to you to arrange a mutual date and time.
During this consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
Initial consultations are also available as part of our online therapy service.
At TranceForm Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.
Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a proven, evidence-based form of mental health counselling for developing a fundamental understanding of the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.
The full course costs £795 which you can pay for on our fees page.
Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.
Visit Online Counselling for more details.
Contact Joan Lee D. Hyp.
I specialise in the following therapies:
I also offer a complete programme which combines mindfulness, mediation and hypnotherapy
Call Joan on: 07434 776504