Anorgasmia Counselling Wolverhampton
Psychological Therapy for Anorgasmia Problems
Anorgasmia is the medical term for the inability to achieve an orgasm and figures suggest that 10-12% of women will never have an orgasm in their lives. Men do suffer this problem in very small proportions but in general, it affects many more females.
It is also estimated that more than 70% of women will never, or never orgasm through the act of sexual intercourse.
This is often due to the fact that stimulation during intercourse is quite difficult with manual stimulation generally much more successful.
Very often this can lead both sexual partners to develop feelings of inadequacy leading to the problem developing into a more significant emotional problems such as stress & anxiety which simply create a negative cycle.
Can Anorgasmia be treated?
In most cases where this has been a temporary problem simple communication about how sexual partners can please each other will be sufficient.
If you do not communicate, or don’t feel like you can communicate what you need, then it is likely that the problem will only grow rather than go.
If this has been the case then Counselling can almost certainly provide help.
What can cause Anorgasmia?
More often than not this problem is one of “mechanics” such as a lack of physical stimulation, being tired after a long day or sometimes the effects of medication.
It is not unknown for anti-depressants to have this effect.
However, if the physical reasons can be ruled out, then Anorgasmia is most likely to be caused by Psychological factors:-
- The fear of “losing control” whilst having an Orgasm – Many women believe that this loss of control is unacceptable and must be avoided.
- Poor body or self image – If you believe that your body is ugly or that you need to lose weight then you might not want to get intimate leading to avoidance or low-self esteem.
- Past Negative experiences – Previous bad experiences or abusive relationships can definitely have an effect on the ability to Orgasm.
- General Relationship problems – If you’ve got a problem in your relationship the worry can express itself at an unconscious level in the bedroom.
- Poor Surroundings or Atmosphere – Having the kids knocking on the door at the moment of passion can develop into a bigger problem if you don’t deal with it, as can trying to be passionate in messy or dirty surroundings.
All of these seemingly minor issues can easily develop into full blown psychological issues if not dealt with effectively.
Anorgasmia, in common with many other problems and conditions, is often made worse by “un-helpful” thinking traits or “distorted” belief systems. (The way we perceive the World around us).
The limiting beliefs associated with Anorgasmia may have been created by an actual negative experience that has now been “blown out of proportion” or indeed may be the result of “imagined experiences” which can lead to the same outcome – the experience of Anxiety related symptoms.
If we can learn how to manage these limiting beliefs or cognitive distortions using the tools and techniques contained in therapies such as our CBT programme then we can also learn how to control the emotional experiences that we have – ie. manage the symptoms.
It is also possible that people suffering from Anorgasmia may have some other emotional or childhood trauma problems that are indirectly related to the problem itself but still create Anxiety and Stress which make the symptoms worse.
In these cases, as it is may be more difficult to identify the distorted thinking or limiting beliefs associated with Anorgasmia itself and therefore following a course of Psycho-dynamic Therapy may be more beneficial.
Transform Your Thinking & Overcome Anorgasmia
If you’re committed to overcoming your anorgasmia problems then we highly recommend following either our Advanced Cognitive Behavioural Therapy course with Paul, or the Changing Limiting Beliefs (CLB) Programme with Joan.
Both the CBT course and Changing Limiting Beliefs approach are highly successful & pragmatic psychological training programmes, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
FREE Initial Consultations for Anorgasmia
We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about your anorgasmia problems. During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
At TranceForm we believe that therapy & counselling should be a collaboration between therapist and client so it’s very important to be able to meet PRIOR to agreeing any kind of help. Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
For most mental health issues we recommend following our 10 session Tranceformental CBT Programme (an advanced version of empirically established Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to overcome a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems.
CBT is a proven, evidence-based form of therapy for developing a fundamental level of understanding into the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.
Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.
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