Low Sex Drive Counselling

A low sex drive is when your desire to participate in sexual relations seems to be lacking, or perhaps even non-existent.

It is estimated that 1 in 5 couples will suffer from a low sex drive, or low Libido at least once in their lifetimes and this problem can have a significant impact on the quality of a relationship, particularly if it is ‘interpreted’ by one of the partners as being indicative of their ‘desireability’.

Experts agree that one of the main reasons of this low sex drive is the hectic pace that lives in modern society are lived at.

With more money worries and a higher incidence of stress & anxiety problems it seems hardly surprising that our sexual libidos are affected.

During the early stages of a relationship it can seem like we can’t get enough sex but as life goes on and our relationships mature these feelings of desire can ebb naturally.

For couples who are not aware of this fact it can be incorrectly interpreted as meaning that something is wrong in the relationship or that one partner “loves the other less than before”.

The fact is that there is a close link between a low sex drive and the levels of stress and anxiety that we are “subjected to” and as we learn, through the right kind of therapy, to cope or deal more effectively with these stresses and strains, the more our interest in sex can return to normal.

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What kinds of problems can produce a low sex drive?

Men and women can both be affected by a loss of interest in sex and it is important not to associate this loss of libido with anything about your “personal attractiveness” which unfortunately is all too often what happens.

There are a number of problems that have been clearly identified as having a negative impact on our level of interest in sex and although the list below is not exhaustive, it does cover the main factors affecting libido:

Erectile Dysfunction – Although it may seem very obvious, when Erectile Dysfunction strikes it can sometimes make a man feel so “inadequate” that rather than trying to overcome the ED problem it is “translated” into a the belief that there is a problem in the relationship and that it is a symptom of a loss of interest in sex (rather than the thing that may be producing it!)

Relationship Problems – If there are some underlying troubles within the relationship that remain unspoken or simply are not being dealt with then this can have a negative impact on your interest is sex.

Sometimes it can be relatively minor irritations such as a partner’s lack of personal hygiene, feelings that one partner is working harder than the other or that one has become lazy.

These problems can generally be fairly easily dealt with through improved communication, perhaps by seeking help for improved self-confidence or through relationship counselling.

Stress – Any Stress in your life can produce this negative effect on your sex life. Stress can be present at work, from money problems, due to the loss of a loved one, a new job, an impending presentation at which you might have to speak publicly or many other factors. Stress can easily result in a loss of interest in sex.

Low Self-Esteem – If you have developed a low opinion of yourself and don’t feel like you are a valuable person then it can often be difficult to believe that you could be sexually attractive to another person. Under these circumstances your mind can modify this low self esteem into a lowering of sexual desire

Depression – Depressive disorders and depressed feeling can have a major impact on your interest in sex. When we become withdrawn from those around us our minds can move into a “survival” mode during which all sexual desire diminishes.

Alcohol Abuse and Drug Abuse – drug or alcohol use can become a primary focus for those people unable to contain their “addictive behaviour”. When these become the primary focus in life it can lead to less and less time thinking about sex, or to that matter, anything else.

Drug and Alcohol abuse can disguise an underlying personality problem which may in itself be a cause of worry when trying to communicate or attract a new partner. Men or women may get drunk before building up the “courage” to ask somebody out on a date and alcohol, in fact, reduces Libido.

A low sex drive is also one of the known side-effects of anti-depressants and some other prescription drugs.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for a Low Sex Drive

If you’re committed to overcoming your Low Sex Drive problems then we highly recommend following our Tranceformental CBT 10 session programme.

The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic psychotherapy course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.

The programme is also available as an online self-help CBT programme.

Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an empirically supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.

Self-Help CBT Course for only £149!

Our online self-help CBT course has been designed to teach you the fundamental tools and techniques of clinically proven Cognitive Behavioural Therapy without having to see a therapist.

Structured over TEN, in-depth modules, this course will provide you everything you need to know to change the way you think about and experience your mental health problems from the comfort of your own home.

Click Self-Help CBT to find out more.

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Alternative Therapies for Low Sex Drive

Although our preferred form of psychotherapy for a Low Sex Drive is Tranceformental CBT we also offer alternative psychotherapies for those who might prefer a different approach.

These include:

Psychodynamic therapy which focuses more on emotional problems and relies on the Therapeutic Relationship to bring about change. Available with Paul.

General Counselling which is less structured but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment to discuss issues which is therapeutic in its own right.

Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of therapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.

Free Initial Consultations for a Low Sex Drive

We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial consultation to discuss your Low Sex Drive issues prior to commencing any treatment plans.

The consultation is free and lasts around 50 minutes.

During this consultation we will discuss the various therapy options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

Initial consultations are also available as part of our online therapy service.

At Tranceform Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss any therapy treatments BEFORE proceeding.

Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.

Overcome Your Problems with our CBT Course

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is clinically proven to be effective across a range of different mental health problems.

Using our online learning platform, it is available with 2, 5 or 10 sessions of clinical support either face-to-face in the Wombourne offices, or using Zoom video facilities.

It can also be taken as a self help CBT course that will teach you the fundamental tools and techniques used throughout the mental health profession.