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Low Sex Drive Counselling Wolverhampton

Psychological Therapy for Low Sex Drive and Low Libido Problems

It is estimated that 1 in 5 couples will suffer from a low sex drive, or low Libido at least once in their lifetimes and this problem can have a significant impact on the quality of a relationship, particularly if it is ‘interpreted’ by one of the partners as being indicative of their ‘desireability’.

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Experts agree that one of the main reasons of this low sex drive is the hectic pace that lives in modern society are lived at.

With more money worries and a higher incidence of stress & anxiety problems it seems hardly surprising that our sexual libidos are affected.

During the early stages of a relationship it can seem like we can’t get enough sex but as life goes on and our relationships mature these feelings of desire can ebb naturally.

For couples who are not aware of this fact it can be incorrectly interpreted as meaning that something is wrong in the relationship or that one partner “loves the other less than before”.

The fact is that there is a close link between a low sex drive and the levels of stress and anxiety that we are “subjected to” and as we learn, through the right kind of therapy, to cope or deal more effectively with these stresses and strains, the more our interest in sex can return to normal.

What kinds of symptoms can produce this low sex drive?

Men and women can both be affected by a loss of interest in sex and it is important not to associate this loss of libido with anything about your “personal attractiveness” which unfortunately is all too often what happens.

There are a number of problems that have been clearly identified as having a negative impact on our level of interest in sex and although the list below is not exhaustive, it does cover the main factors affecting libido:

  • Erectile Dysfunction – Although it may seem very obvious, when Erectile Dysfunction strikes it can sometimes make a man feel so “inadequate” that rather than trying to overcome the ED problem it is “translated” into a the belief that there is a problem in the relationship and that it is a symptom of a loss of interest in sex (rather than the thing that may be producing it!)
  • Relationship Problems – If there are some underlying troubles within the relationship that remain unspoken or simply are not being dealt with then this can have a negative impact on your interest is sex. Sometimes it can be relatively minor irritations such as a partner’s lack of personal hygiene, feelings that one partner is working harder than the other or that one has become lazy. These problems can generally be fairly easily dealt with through improved communication, perhaps by seeking help for improved self-confidence.
  • Stress – Any Stress in your life can produce this negative effect on your sex life. Stress can be present at work, from money problems, due to the loss of a loved one, a new job, an impending presentation at which you might have to speak publicly or many other factors. Stress can easily result in a loss of interest in sex.
  • Low Self-Esteem – If you have developed a low opinion of yourself and don’t feel like you are a valuable person then it can often be difficult to believe that you could be sexually attractive to another person. Under these circumstances your mind can modify this low self esteem into a lowering of sexual desire
  • Depression – Depressive disorders and depressed feeling can have a major impact on your interest in sex. When we become withdrawn from those around us our minds can move into a “survival” mode during which all sexual desire diminishes.
  • Alcohol Abuse and Drug Abuse – drug or alcohol use can become a primary focus for those people unable to contain their “addictive behaviour”. When these become the primary focus in life it can lead to less and less time thinking about sex, or to that matter, anything else. Drug and Alcohol abuse can disguise an underlying personality problem which may in itself be a cause of worry when trying to communicate or attract a new partner. Men or women may get drunk before building up the “courage” to ask somebody out on a date and alcohol, in fact, reduces Libido.

A low sex drive is also one of the known side-effects of anti-depressants and some other prescription drugs.

Therapy for a Low Sex Drive

Often, the solution to a low sex drive lies in solving the cause of the problem; any of those listed above.

The choice of therapy will be determined by the severity of those symptoms and the length of time you have been suffering.

If your thinking has become “distorted” about the problem (rather than you having had direct negative experiences) then you would probably benefit more from following our Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Programme which is designed to help you gain an understanding into those thought patterns, and then provides you with the practical tools to modify your belief systems & thinking styles to bring about changes.

Transform Your Thinking & Overcome a Low Sex Drive

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If you’re committed to overcoming your low sex drive problems then we highly recommend following either our Advanced Cognitive Behavioural Therapy course with Paul, or the Changing Limiting Beliefs (CLB) Programme with Joan.

Both the CBT course and Changing Limiting Beliefs approach are highly successful & pragmatic psychological training programmes, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.

Our CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.

FREE Initial Consultations for Low Sex Drive Problems

FREE Initial Consultations for Low Sex Drive Wolverhampton

We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about your sex-related problems. During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

At TranceForm we believe that therapy & counselling should be a collaboration between therapist and client so it’s very important to be able to meet PRIOR to agreeing any kind of help. Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.

For most mental health issues we recommend following our 10 session Tranceformental CBT Programme (an advanced version of empirically established Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to overcome a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems.

CBT is a proven, evidence-based form of therapy for developing a fundamental level of understanding into the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.

The full course costs £795 which you can pay for on our fees page - don't forget we offer a FREE initial consultation to all prospective clients.

Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.

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