All About Premature Ejaculation & How To Overcome it with CBT, Therapy & Counselling

What is Premature Ejaculation?

Premature Ejaculation, or PE as it is known medically, is when a man “cums too quickly” either during sexual intercourse or sometimes before penetration has even occurred.

Along with Erectile Dysfunction, it is considered one of the most common sexual problems a man is likely to suffer.

In general terms, premature ejaculation tends to affect the younger, less experienced man, although data shows that about a third of ALL men are likely to experience this problem at some point in their lives.

It is likely that a significant factor in premature ejaculation problems is related to sexual performance anxiety.

What exactly “premature” means is really down to personal interpretation, but to be considered to be a problem, we are probably talking about “cumming” within one or two minutes or even seconds.

What can cause Premature Ejaculation?

As premature ejaculation tends to affect the younger man it is almost certainly the case that “experience” plays a major role in this problem.

This is not difficult to understand when one considers the amount of anticipatory anxiety that is built during early sexual encounters when the focus is all on “control” and the avoidance of “embarrassment”.

This desire to be in control and to not cum too quickly undoubtedly falls victim to what is known as “Coue’s Law of Reversed Effort” – this is an effect that occurs when we have a specific desire in our conscious mind (in this case to be able to “last” a long time) but our imagination tends to focus on all the negative or bad things that could happen.

What Emile Coue proposed is that whenever this conflict occurs between the conscious thoughts and the imagination, that the imagination is much more “powerful” and will always “beat” the conscious thoughts.

It is unlikely that PE has a physiological or biological cause, although of course this is NOT impossible and so we always recommend that clients consult with their GP prior to consulting us to ensure that any biological problems can be ruled-out.

Whatever the cause, this is a problem that once experienced, can escalate into a full-blown Psychological problem that tends to grow worse the more one worries about it.

Can Premature Ejaculation be helped?

The majority of men will find that the more they have sexual experiences, the smaller this problem becomes as they develop a greater sense of control over climaxing.

This of course is “experience”.

Therapy & Counselling for Premature Ejaculation

Tranceform offer a range of psychological therapy and counselling solutions for PE which you can read about below.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Premature Ejaculation

If you’re committed to overcoming your Premature Ejaculation problems then we highly recommend following our Tranceformental CBT 10 session programme.

The Tranceformental programme is a highly successful & pragmatic psychotherapy course, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.

The programme is also available as an online self-help CBT programme.

Our Tranceformental CBT programme is an empirically supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.

Self-Help CBT Course for only £149!

Our online self-help CBT course has been designed to teach you the fundamental tools and techniques of clinically proven Cognitive Behavioural Therapy without having to see a therapist.

Structured over TEN, in-depth modules, this course will provide you everything you need to know to change the way you think about and experience your mental health problems from the comfort of your own home.

Click Self-Help CBT to find out more.

Alternative Therapies for Premature Ejaculation

Although our preferred form of psychotherapy for Premature Ejaculation is Tranceformental CBT we also offer alternative psychotherapies for those who might prefer a different approach.

These include:

Psychodynamic therapy which focuses more on emotional problems and relies on the Therapeutic Relationship to bring about change. Available with Paul.

General Counselling which is less structured but still provides a safe and non-judgmental environment to discuss issues which is therapeutic in its own right.

Hypnotherapy is an alternative form of therapy that can be applied to a very wide range of problems and is available with Joan.

Free Initial Consultations for Premature Ejaculation

We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial consultation to discuss your PE prior to commencing any treatment plans.

The consultation is free and lasts around 50 minutes.

During this consultation we will discuss the various therapy options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

Initial consultations are also available as part of our online therapy service.

At Tranceform Psychology we recognise the importance of the therapeutic relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss any therapy treatments BEFORE proceeding.

Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.