Sexual Performance Anxiety Counselling
Psychological Therapy for Sexual Performance Anxiety
In most cases Sexual Performance Anxiety is really a “version” of “social anxiety” or “social phobia” in-as-much as we can over-worry what other people think about us, and go on to let this affect us adversely. People suffering from Sexual Performance Anxiety often become so stressed about “how good a lover” they are that the sheer anticipation of how well they feel they must perform creates a negative effect (we call this Coue’s Law of Reversed Effort) by having the body “do the opposite” to what they actually want to happen.
These feelings that we are “not quite good enough” can be amplified during the sexual act as we generally feel at our most vulnerable and literally “exposed” during these most intimate of moments.
People suffering from sexual performance anxiety also tend to find find that they get into a negative spiral of anxiety where just the thought of having sex can lead them to start to feel anxious, often resulting in avoidance and feelings of inadequacy & low self esteem.
What can Cause me to have Sexual Performance Anxiety?
As with almost all psychological conditions there can be many different factors that result in these feelings:-
Early Character Development – During our character forming years our early learning experiences and general nurturing surroundings can impact on how we act as adults, very “macho” environments can lead young men to worry about how good they have to be.
Early negative sexual experiences – if those first sexual encounters did not go too well they can lead to an overcompensation and the development of Anxiety about sexual performance.
Could my Sexual Performance Anxiety really be Social Anxiety?
If you answer “AGREE” to more than a few of the following questions then you do have some Social Anxiety (Social Phobia) which could contribute to this problem:-
- I feel anxious and “on the spot” around authority figures
- I sometimes blush or stutter when talking to people
- I avoid being the centre of attention
- Making a fool of myself, or people laughing at me are amongst my worst fears
- Parties and social events intimidate me and I will often avoid them
- I hate the feeling of being criticized so I work really hard at being good and getting things right
- I find it hard to look people in the eye whilst talking to them
- I often feel panicky when I am around people
- I find meeting new people hard
- I always get nervous before any sort of test
Transform Your Thinking & Overcome Performance Anxiety
If you’re committed to overcoming your sexual performance anxiety issues then we highly recommend following either our Advanced Cognitive Behavioural Therapy course with Paul, or the Changing Limiting Beliefs (CLB) Programme with Joan.
Both the CBT course and Changing Limiting Beliefs approach are highly successful & pragmatic psychological training programmes, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
FREE Initial Consultations for Sexual Performance Anxiety
We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about your sexual performance anxiety problems. During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
At TranceForm we believe that therapy & Counselling should be a collaboration between therapist and client so it’s very important to be able to meet PRIOR to agreeing any kind of help. Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
For most mental health issues we recommend following our 10 session Tranceformental CBT Programme (an advanced version of empirically established Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to overcome a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems.
CBT is a proven, evidence-based form of therapy for developing a fundamental level of understanding into the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.
Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as a one-to-one format in the clinic.
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