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Sexual Performance Anxiety Counselling Wolverhampton

Psychological Therapy for Sexual Performance Anxiety

In most cases Sexual Performance Anxiety is really a “version” of “social anxiety” or “social phobia” in-as-much as we can over-worry what other people think about us, and go on to let this affect us adversely. sexual performance anxiety counselling wolverhampton - couple making love in bed People suffering from Sexual Performance Anxiety often become so stressed about “how good a lover” they are that the sheer anticipation of how well they feel they must perform creates a negative effect (we call this Coue’s Law of Reversed Effort) by having the body “do the opposite” to what they actually want to happen. These feelings that we are “not quite good enough” can be amplified during the sexual act as we generally feel at our most vulnerable and literally “exposed” during these most intimate of moments. People suffering from sexual performance anxiety also tend to find find that they get into a negative spiral of anxiety where just the thought of having sex can lead them to start to feel anxious, often resulting in avoidance and feelings of inadequacy & low self esteem.

What can Cause me to have Sexual Performance Anxiety?

As with almost all psychological conditions there can be many different factors that result in these feelings:- Early Character Development – During our character forming years our early learning experiences and general nurturing surroundings can impact on how we act as adults, very “macho” environments can lead young men to worry about how good they have to be. Early negative sexual experiences – if those first sexual encounters did not go too well they can lead to an overcompensation and the development of Anxiety about sexual performance.

Could my Sexual Performance Anxiety really be Social Anxiety?

If you answer “AGREE” to more than a few of the following questions then you do have some Social Anxiety (Social Phobia) which could contribute to this problem:-

  • I feel anxious and “on the spot” around authority figures
  • I sometimes blush or stutter when talking to people
  • I avoid being the centre of attention
  • Making a fool of myself, or people laughing at me are amongst my worst fears
  • Parties and social events intimidate me and I will often avoid them
  • I hate the feeling of being criticized so I work really hard at being good and getting things right
  • I find it hard to look people in the eye whilst talking to them
  • I often feel panicky when I am around people
  • I find meeting new people hard
  • I always get nervous before any sort of test

Counselling for Sexual Performance Anxiety

If you have had past negative experiences or poor relationships that have contributed to your performance anxiety then you would likely benefit from a course of Psychoanalysis. This intervention is evidence based and is designed to help you to re-evaluate (re-process) any past experiences to ensure that they are properly integrated into your thinking and therefore produce the minimum impact on your behaviour. If you have developed badly managed thinking around the problem, then the Thrive Programme could help you to understand how and why your particular personality & thinking styles have combined to make the problem worse rather than better! You will also learn how to take charge of that very thinking and begin to take control of the way you feel and “behave”.

Learn How to Thrive and Beat Sexual Performance Anxiety

If you’re committed to overcoming your Sexual Performance Anxiety then you really can’t do much better than by learning how to Thrive.

The Thrive Programme is a psychological training programme that teaches you everything you need to know to make the necessary changes to your limiting beliefs so that you can really Thrive in life.

Thrive Programme Video

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FREE Initial Consultations for Sexual Performance Anxiety

FREE Initial Consultations for Sexual Performance Anxiety Wolverhampton

We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about your sexual performance anxiety problems. During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

At TranceForm we believe that therapy & Counselling should be a collaboration between therapist and client so it’s very important to be able to meet PRIOR to agreeing any kind of help. Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.

Page Author - Paul Lee BSc. Honours

Page Author - Paul Lee BSc. Honours

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This page was authored by Paul Lee Bachelor of Science (honours) Psychology and Social Psychology. All content is cross-edited by Dr. Justina Somal PhD (British Psychological Society) for accuracy and operational validity.

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