Fortune Telling & Predicting the Future
‘Fortune Telling’ Thinking Errors Helped in Wolverhampton
Fortune Telling is also known as ‘predicting the future’ and is one of the most common scenarios that we encounter in our practice, certainly on a daily basis.
Clients will frequently report how much they ‘worried’ about an event for weeks before it happened and then tell us that it ‘wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be’! This is one of the fundamental problems with ‘predictions’, they rarely represent what actually happens. Even more interestingly, hardly any clients consulting us for different problems report predicting really fantastic outcomes in the future only to find that those future events turned out to be a bit of a ‘damp squib’.
This is principally because almost all ‘fortune telling’ thinking errors focus on NEGATIVE outcomes not POSITIVE ones.
You’ve been feeling a bit ‘down’ recently and just having been enjoying life. Your best friend invites you out to a party but you predict that if you go you’re not going to have a good time. Everybody there is bound to find you a bit ‘odd’, the music will be rubbish and the food will be bland. You decide it would be better to stay at home and think about how dull your social life is.
You’ve always thought that hang-gliding looks like a lot of fun but are worried that being anxious will mean you don’t have the skills. If you give it a try you’re bound to lose your nerve at the last minute, the instructors will get annoyed with you for wasting their time and your own money.
You’re much better off conserving all that nervous energy spent on worrying for weeks and just let events ‘un-fold’ when they actually happen. So get rid of that crystal ball and bin the Tarot cards.
Managing Your Fortune Telling ‘Skills’
Test Out Your Predictions
You really don’t know how much fun you might have at that party until you actually get there. The food might actually be great and the music might be right ‘up your street’, so why not go and just find out how good you actually are at predicting the future.
Be Prepared To Take Some Risks
Surely it’s worth losing a bit of money for the opportunity of trying out a new sport that you’ve always been interested in doing.
There’s a common saying that ‘a ship is safe in the harbour’ – but that’s not what ships are designed for!
Try to live life ‘experimentally’ and take some calculated risks because this is what makes life both interesting and rewarding.
Self Fulfilling Prophecies
The problem with fortune telling is that if you are not careful you end up making your predictions come true by expecting things to go wrong before they do thus becoming self-fulfilling prophecies.
Transform Your Thinking & Stop ‘Fortune Telling’
If you’re committed to changing your unhelpful thinking patterns then we highly recommend following either our Advanced Cognitive Behavioural Therapy course with Paul, or the Changing Limiting Beliefs (CLB) Programme with Joan.
Both the CBT course and Changing Limiting Beliefs approach are highly successful & pragmatic psychological training programmes, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
FREE Initial Consultations for Fortune Telling Problems
We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about why you try to predict the future or use ‘fortune telling’.
During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
At TranceForm we believe that therapy & coaching should be a collaboration between therapist and client so it’s very important to be able to meet PRIOR to agreeing any kind of help. Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
For most mental health issues we recommend following our 10 session Tranceformental CBT Programme (an advanced version of conventional Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to overcome a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems.
CBT is a proven form of therapy for developing a fundamental level of understanding into the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.
Tranceformental CBT is available On-line as well as in the clinic.
Visit Online Counselling for more details.