Imperative Thinking – MUSTerbation
Manage Imperative Thinking Errors in Wolverhampton
To understand Imperative Thinking we can turn to Albert Ellis, founder of REBT, who emphasised that ‘demands’ lie at the very heart of emotional problems. The thoughts and beliefs that contain words such as ‘must’, ‘need’, ‘should, ‘ought-to’ and ‘got-to’ can be problematic as they are rigid and inflexible leading to poor adaptation to reality.
Aaron Beck, founder of Cognitive Therapy, described this ‘imperative’ use of language as MUSTerbation!
The use of these imperative thinking styles can lead directly to unhelpful perceptions, for example:
- You believe that you must have the approval of your friends and work colleagues so your social behaviours become focused on doing what ever it is that gets approval, even if this is at your own personal expense.
- You believe that as YOU try so very hard to be kind and considerate to other people that others really ought to treat you the same. Unfortunately as people tend to develop their own rules and regulations for how this lead their own lives, this can lead you to have very unrealistic expectations and feel hurt or let-down when others don’t behave the way YOU do.
- You believe that you should never let other people down and as a result tend to put your own needs last and other people needs first. This often leads to stress and anxiety when people don’t put YOU first.
Challenge Imperative Thinking
These inflexible rules and demands would be better replaced with more flexible thinking styles such as:
Pay attention to language
Try to replace words like ‘must’, ‘need’ and ‘should’ with words like ‘prefer’, ‘want’ and ‘could’.
Reduce approval seeking
Could your life be worthwhile even if you don’t get the approval of everybody that you seek it from? If you try to think of your need for approval rather more like a preference for approval then you are likely to feel much less stressed when it is not given.
Recognise that people have different rules for life
Your rules are unique to you, and no matter how much you believe that they are ‘universally true’, if you allow other people the right to have and use their own rules, then you can feel less ‘let down’ when they fail to meet your ‘standards’.
Focus on what you would LIKE not what you think you NEED
If you think about the things that you would actually like to have in your life, or how you would like life to ‘be’ then you will be able to develop much more meaningful strategies that could help you achieve these aims rather then become depressed about how you think it should be.
Furthermore, people who WANT to achieve something are significantly more motivated than those people who think that they NEED to achieve something!
Transform Your Beliefs & Overcome Imperative Thinking
If you’re committed to overcoming your imperative thinking problems then we highly recommend following either the Thrive Programme with Paul, or the Changing Limiting Beliefs (CLB) Programme with Joan.
Both the Thrive Programme and Changing Limiting Beliefs are highly successful & pragmatic psychological training programmes, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem and then make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
FREE Initial Consultations for ‘Imperative’ Thinking
We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about your imperative thinking problems and how they may be impacting on your life.
During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
At TranceForm we believe that therapy & coaching should be a collaboration between therapist and client so it’s very important to be able to meet PRIOR to agreeing any kind of help. Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking therapy with us, including both the financial and personal implications.
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