Low Frustration Tolerance Thinking Errors
Turn Low Frustration Tolerance into A Capacity to Cope
Low frustration tolerance is the idea that when things become difficult or uncomfortable that they are somehow ‘intolerable’. The problem with this thinking error is that you are less likely to tolerate discomfort even if by doing so you would obtain a benefit in the future.
The more you ‘tell yourself’ that you can’t cope or that things are ‘getting on top of you’, the less likely you are engage with those situations.
Examples of Low Frustration Tolerance
You frequently procrastinate about completing work or college assignments thinking to yourself, ‘It’s too much hassle, I’ll just do it later when I’m more in the mood’. You tend to wait until the deadline is fast approaching and it becomes too uncomfortable to put off any longer. Unfortunately this means that you ultimately put less time and effort into doing a good job and increase your own stress levels at the same time!
You are determined to overcome your Anxiety about travelling too far from home by going out and facing your fear directly. However, each time you travel a little bit further away you become anxious and think to yourself, ‘This is really too horrible to bear’ and you rush home as quickly as you can. Unfortunately this reinforces your fear rather than providing you with evidence that you can travel away from home perfectly safely.
Develop High Frustration Tolerance
The best way to beat a low frustration tolerance is to develop a new attitude that you CAN tolerate these frustration and feelings. This can be achieved by:
Push Yourself To Do the Uncomfortable Things
Try to develop the habit of starting work or college assignments within a few days of receiving them even if you really aren’t in the mood, You will find that the benefits of finishing the work in good time provides you with more satisfaction than the benefits of putting them off.
Remind Yourself That You CAN Cope
It’s far too easy to convince yourself that you can’t cope by simply telling yourself you can’t cope over and over again. Try to manage your thinking a bit more and tell yourself that even though Anxiety can be an uncomfortable feeling that you have survived those feelings many times before and that you can definitely do it again.
The problem with telling yourself that you can’t tolerate uncomfortable feelings is that it (1) makes you focus your attention exclusively on your discomfort and (2) leads to you underestimating your real ability to cope.
Believing you can’t cope just makes things seem a lot worse than they really are!
Transform Your Thinking & Develop Frustration Tolerance
If you want to be able to tolerate frutrating situtaions or feelings more effectively then we highly recommend following either our Advanced Cognitive Behavioural Therapy course with Paul, or the Changing Limiting Beliefs (CLB) Programme with Joan.
Both the CBT course and Changing Limiting Beliefs approach are highly successful & pragmatic psychological training programmes, run over 10 sessions, that will teach you everything you need to know to understand your problem, identify how unhelpful thinking and limiting beliefs might be reinforcing the issue, and then show you how to make any changes to your unhelpful thinking styles or maladaptive safety behaviours that you may have developed as part of your coping strategies.
Our CBT programme is an evidence-based, research supported approach used by mental health practitioners around the World.
FREE Initial Consultations for Low Frustration Tolerance
We offer all prospective clients a FREE initial assessment to chat about low frustration tolerance. During this 50 minute consultation we will discuss the various options that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.
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For most mental health issues we recommend following our 10 session Tranceformental CBT Programme (an advanced version of conventional Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to overcome a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems.
CBT is a proven form of therapy for developing a fundamental level of understanding into the dynamics of your problem, but also for learning new coping skills and strategies for sustainable change over your life.