Anxiety & Panic Attacks
Wow What a journey.
A year ago I started to have panic attacks. I even called out an Ambulance on the M6 as I thought I was having a Heart Attack.
I then had a Panic Disorder, High social anxiety, Scared of going out in Public, Scared of People, Going out in general, had suicidal thoughts constantly.
The fear of dying.
Was in a dark place for a while.
Doctor threw Anti-depressants at me which did not help, I tried Meditation (Visualization, Relaxation & Spiritualization), exercise,
Stopping drinking, no caffeine, camomile tea but nothing was helping.
The Anxiety / Panic always took over my body.
The best news, I met Paul, had the free 1 hour consultation, we had a good chat, he put me on the Thrive Programme (now Tranceformental CBT).
I followed the course and went to my sessions weekly with Paul which helped me understand the Thrive and my answers to the exercises’.
After 5 -6 weeks I made a quick turnaround.
Boosting my Self Esteem and now have Low social anxiety and Truly in control of my life.
I am better than normal.
I have done everything that I deemed impossible.
Just to prove it I went to shops I feared, went for meals with strangers, even caught a flight last week.
I am a new improved person.
I love myself and my life.
Thanks Paul I cannot put it into words on how Grateful I am, and my Wife and Kids now happier as they have a better person in their life!
Public Speaking Issues
“I contacted Paul in March 2011 as I had decided that I must do something to change how restricted I felt due to lack of confidence.
After an initial chat Paul recommended the Changing Limiting Beliefs course. (Now Tranceformental CBT)
I learnt so much about myself and how to change my way of thinking that it has completely changed my life around.
I no longer feel restricted by things and feel like I have had a new start, I now know I can succeed in anything I put my mind to.
After suffering with depression and lack of confidence for the majority of my life, I didn’t expect much from the course initially…
How wrong was I?
I am now completely off the anti depressants that I have been on for the last 3 years and feel so very confident in everything I choose to do.
I was honestly so impressed with the course and Paul’s guidance that I would genuinely recommend Paul Lee to anyone who is not happy with the way they think their life is going.
If you are reading this, then pick up the phone and have an initial chat with Paul, what have you got to lose? life could be so much better.
Thanks again Paul.”
“I contacted Paul on the recommendation of a friend in March 2011, as i was very worried about an exam I needed to pass to help me further my career.
The therapeutic technique used was Changing Limited Beliefs – now Tranceformental CBT.
Since having 7 lessons followed by a Confidence Building session, I feel very confident and assertive at home and in my work place.
It has encouraged me to stay positive in all kinds of situations.
I feel it was a valuable experience.”
I can honestly say I had hit the lowest point in my entire life and didn’t know what to do or who to turn to, I had tried a lot of different types of therapy but they didn’t work one bit and made my situation worse, my last and only option was Paul.
I didn’t hold out much hope but I didn’t have anything to lose, but to my amazement, with Paul’s help and determination and the therapy that he chose for me.
I am now not the same person I was 5 months ago.
I have turned into the most confident person I have ever been, I feel I can do anything if I put my mind to it, all the things I could never do, I can do them now.
I don’t struggle with day to day living like i used to, I haven’t felt anxious in a while and if I ever was to feel that way again then I am confident enough to say I would beat it as fast as it came.
Paul has given me my life back in so many ways, he has taught me a better way of thinking and this was the best decision I have ever made in my entire life.
Anyone who is thinking of having any kind of therapy from Paul then go for it, it really does work!”
Depression & Anxiety
“I came to see Paul in July for help with some issues I had throughout my life.
I grew up in a household where one of my parents was very depressed and in an environment that was heavily influenced by the beliefs they had as Jehovah’s Witnesses.
Although I am successful and have a great life, I still had very low self esteem and felt that I needed to please others to feel good; that I wasn’t respected; that I was in constant competition with others; very anxious about what others thought of me.
I had tried to change these beliefs through other techniques such as NLP in the past but the beliefs came back after a while.
After an initial consultation with Paul I decided to try analytical therapy.
This really helped to bring up some of the experiences and beliefs that I had.
With the help of Paul I was really able to see some of the traits that I had carried forward from my childhood.
I did find that it was more difficult to bring back experiences as we got further into the process so I made a decision to try ‘Changing Limiting Beliefs’ (Tranceformental CBT) instead.
The insight from the Psychoanalysis really helped me with the programme.
I have just finished CBT and I feel fantastic.
My life has really changed, I have this wonderful feeling of control.
I may end up in situations that are stressful but my outlook and perspective has completely changed.
It is like having a bubble around you and the negativity just bounces off.
I am really glad I took the time to do some something good for myself and I know my life is just going to get better and better everyday…
Thanks again for helping me.”
Low Self-Esteem and Self-Image
“I contacted Paul in May 2011 when I was in a “bad place” in my life.
It had come to the time whereby I felt my bad habits had taken over my life, I was in complete despair and I couldn’t see a way out.
Quite a number of times I had tried different avenues to cure my problem but several failed attempts left me convinced that I couldn’t do it on my own and I needed someone or something to help me.
Paul’s diplomatic and objective nature instantly gave me peace of mind, and I was willing to do whatever it took.
Several analytical sessions later, and a number of changing limiting beliefs sessions thereafter I feel like I have been set free.
My life is getting better and better, I am feeling brighter and brighter, with the new me being able to be everything I have always wanted to be.
The tensions and strains of everyday life no longer feel like a burden to me, as Paul has taught me to have power and control over myself that I appeared to have lost somewhere along the line.
I now feel like I can take on anything, and any obstacles that may have hindered the old me, now pass me by without my noticing.
My friends and family often remark how strong I am, or how I cope with things so effortlessly.
I now feel I have the life tools to withstand anything that comes my way.
I would recommend both analytical therapy and the changing limiting beliefs programme to anyone who is ready to change their life for the better and release any issues that may be restricting their life.
I also would like to thank Paul for being consistently patient with me.
His empathetic but firm disposition, allowed me the time and space to grow in the direction necessary for me.”
Emetophobia – Fear of Vomiting
“I first contacted Paul as I suffered from a number of things – which were really affecting my life.
Low self esteem, social anxiety, no confidence, panic attacks but most of all emetophobia.
All of the above effected my life in a big way.
I wouldn’t eat out unless completely unavoidable, I wouldn’t travel if I wasn’t the driver, I wouldn’t go out on my own or with friends except for lunch break.
I wouldn’t eat new food, I would only trust 2 people to cook for me (my mom and my partners mom) I didn’t go on holiday, I wouldn’t speak in front/to people I didn’t know well face to face.
I would panic to the point where we would nearly have to call an ambulance if I felt poorly, I wouldn’t stay in the house on my own, be around anyone with a bug or who had been in contact with someone who had been poorly and as for babies – that was a no go!… The list could go on forever.
Paul suggested a course in Changing Limiting Beliefs.
With Paul and at home, I worked through my course book completing all exercises and talking through my issues at weekly sessions.
Since I have completed the course – now 8 weeks ago I have improved a lot.
I have completed 2 presentations with work one where my boss drove me to Wycombe and one in my office. Both in front of around 15 people.
I didn’t get embarrassed or panic when I felt sick with nerves.
I have been to Leeds for a supplier meeting.
I have been with my Nan through her fight with cancer – even through the sickness!
I have sat with my sister during her morning sickness and my friends children when they had the dreaded winter sickness bug!
I went to a charity comedy night in a packed pub been to the cinema with my partner and Christmas shopping to Merry Hill 3 times (once on my own!). Not once panicking that I couldn’t see the door.
I have even been promoted at work and now run a small team.
I let my partner cook tea and have even started to eat a wider variety of food.
I stay on my own at home when my partner does the night shift and I haven’t had a panic attack in over 3 months.
I have dealt with my own sickness – not being sick but feeling sick.
I have come to learn that my emetophobia is an obsession and by learning new ways of thinking I can overcome it.
I am still not keen on the thought of being sick but I no longer go into complete melt down. I get my hot water bottle, put the TV on and distract myself. We have even been talking about having children in the new year!
I never thought I would of got this far and if it had not been for the help and support I got from both family, friends and Paul I don’t think I would be where I am now.
Paul makes talking through your problems easy.
He does not judge or call you stupid, he listens and helps you manage your thoughts/beliefs/fears better.
The course was definitely a good choice for me.
I still have things to change and develop and I still work from my book at home but I am getting there – my life has definitely improved for the better.”
Phobia of Birds
“I first contacted Paul in May 2012, as I was due to go on holiday and have a fear of birds, so I wanted to try hypnotherapy to help with my fear.
At the same time I was suffering anxiety about my health.
Before my appointment with Paul I had seen my doctor about health worries and he had suggested counselling as he thought it was anxiety that was giving me the health issues.
On my first meeting with Paul, I found him to be very easy to talk to and cry to (as i did often in the first few weeks).
I explained that although I had originally booked for hypnotherapy regarding birds, I told him everything else I was feeling and worried over and what my doctor had said.
We chatted and Paul recommended the Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) Programme.
I decided to give it a go.
I read two chapters per week of the book and we discussed these at the next appointments and my answers to any of the questions.
I must say after the first three weeks and still feeling anxious I was a bit down hearted but I explained all this to Paul.
I then went on holiday and was totally relaxed, no health worries and even managed to sit eating outdoors when a bird landed by me.
I saw Paul on my return and explained that Id been totally relaxed on holiday but anxious when got home, Paul explained that I should take the positives from it and that I should be able to see that when I’m relaxed I am fine and therefore it is all about my style of thinking.
I completed the course and went on my way.
I was much more relaxed and had lots more self confidence.
It has now been about a month since my course finished.
I am most definitely more confident, not worried about what I think others think of me.
I still get anxious at times, but am doing my best to remember all i have learnt and to go back to reading the thrive book to help myself and not let things get me down like before.
Paul is very easy to talk to, witty, and doesn’t judge, I would recommend this thrive course.
Thank you Paul Mrs C“
Emetophobia – Fear of Vomiting
“I first came to see Paul in October 2012 with my Fiancé about my ’emetophobia’, as at the time I felt the whole process was too delicate to deal with alone.
I was so down about my ‘emetophobia’ that coming to see Paul was my last resort, after having a course of unsuccessful CBT on the NHS.
After this had failed, I really didn’t see a way of me getting better.
Along with my ‘emetophobia’, I had picked up other traits that were really bringing me down, such as anxiety, panic attacks and low self esteem.
‘Emetophobia’ put my life on hold in many ways.
I never felt I could tackle things on my own, such as simple every day things like eating a meal out, and on very anxious occasions, even in my own home, purely because I feared I would be sick.
I would find it extremely difficult when I went on holiday, as I feared the foreign food would make me ill.
Being around people who were ill would send me into a complete anxiety attack, and I would quarantine myself to ‘protect’ me from the ‘sickness bug’.
Before I came to see Paul, I never imagined myself ever having children, as the whole thought of going through a pregnancy, and then having to look after a baby/child when it was ill, was just unthinkable.
Paul knew just the programme for me called the ‘Thrive’ programme, a programme I read and completed at home, and would then come to him weekly to review my progress, that unbelievably, we began to notice improve really quickly.
Paul increased my confidence so much, and because of that, the effort I put in to getting myself better increased.
Through working with Paul, I have come to realise that I don’t, and even never have had ‘emetophobia’ (hence the quotation marks around that word every time I mention it) instead; I just have badly managed thinking and limiting belief systems.
It was thinking that I had ‘emetophobia’ that kept the ‘fear’ going.
It’s amazing how much you actually relax once you realise the phobia isn’t effecting you, but instead your own thoughts and limiting beliefs are.
When I have unhelpful thoughts crop up in my mind, I am able now to control them, and when I say to myself that its me who’s creating these thoughts, no one else, and certainly not the thing called ‘emetophobia’ it puts things back into perspective, and I can soon go back to getting on with my day-to-day tasks.
Eating out is now a pleasure, not a massive worry, and I can happily eat out with people who I’m even not that close to.
However when I do have the OCCASIONAL blip, I know now that everyone can have a bad day, and that it’s ok to feel it sometimes, it doesn’t mean I’m taking a step back.
Since meeting Paul, I’ve set up my own small business making balloons, and couldn’t be happier.
Eventually, I’d like to quit my day job and do it full time. It’s since my self-esteem has grown that I’ve been able to do this.
I travelled over an hour away from my home on my own, motorway driving, to attend balloon classes, and when there, did not have any panic/anxiety/’emetophobic’ thoughts, because I was doing something I absolutely loved, but of course before I met Paul, this wouldn’t have been possible.
I also have better relationships with my friends, as before I found it very hard to become close to anyone other than my fiancé.
Through limiting beliefs, I never thought I’d get on with other girls, but since starting the programme with Paul, I have amazing relationships with my friends.
I went shopping for a whole day with my friend, something I previously found incredibly intimidating and anxious, but I had a wonderful time, and the friendship between us grew even closer.
I’ve even been asked to be a godmother to one of my friends daughters.
Paul’s been fantastic, we’ve laughed more times than what I’ve felt down, and in a therapy session, that’s pretty unheard of.
Before I came to see Paul, I couldn’t actually say what I wanted to do with my life, I couldn’t imagine my future.
Now, I know exactly what I want to do, where I want to be, and the thought of starting a family further in the future no longer scares me, but actually excites me.
Thanks a lot Paul, keep in touch.”
Fear of Flying & Heights
I came back from my holiday Friday night after 2 weeks of complete relaxation.
For the first time I was able to relax right up to the moment I went home including when I was on the plane.
I did the DREAM exercises before I went on and it really helped me to have full control on the plane with no panic moments at all.
I took the first flight for granted, when it come to my second flight I didn’t do no techniques or exercises because I thought I would be sound which lead to a nervy flight.
I didn’t think about the flight until I was on it, once I was on I started to let myself lose control.
I proved to myself that although you can do it once doesn’t mean you don’t ever need to do the exercises again.
I know because I didn’t do the exercises or didn’t apply myself properly was the reason I had a not so good second flight.
All it comes down to though is that I didn’t control it properly and allowed myself to create my fear again.
Next time though it will be under control and hasn’t knocked my confidence one bit I am going to succeed and will totally rid it soon.
The way I look at it is my first flight will be my motivation for everything now.
It was full proof to myself that the DREAM technique literally works a dream to me when applied!
Nothing’s an obstacle now I like to see it as challenge which drives me on even more to gain full control. I now want to start seeking heights rather than step away from them.
I couldn’t thank you anymore for helping me to understand myself and giving me the right guidance to allow me to understand how to gain control.
You introduced me to something that has and will continue to change my life.
Thank you again for everything Paul.”
Emetophobia – Fear of Vomiting
“I had suffered from ’emetophobia’ and anxiety since I can remember (I’m 26 now) and at the start of 2014 I decided to do something about it.
After looking online for help I came across the Thrive Programme and did some research into it (I was sceptical after going through counselling, CBT and Analytical Therapy and not really improving) and I found Paul’s site.
After reading through it about 10 times I decided to give him a call and arranged my initial consultation.
I can honestly say Paul is one of the nicest people I have met and he made me feel relaxed and calm straight away.
During our consultation we talked about the programme and what it involved and I knew there and then that it was something I wanted to do.
I have currently had 5 sessions with Paul and my life has completely changed, I am more confident, relaxed and happy.
I have overcome many of the ‘issues’ I had when I started the programme and well on my way to beating others.
This programme is challenging but in a good way as you learn about who you are as a person and that we all have the power in us to change and thrive gives you the skills and confidence to ….. Thrive.
I would advise anybody who suffers with emetophobia, anxiety or any other issue that is stopping you living your life to do this programme.”