Identity Integration Issues

What exactly do I mean by ‘Identity Integration’?

Over the last 9 years here at TranceForm I have encountered literally hundreds of clients who tell me that they only suffer their particular ‘problem’ in certain situations, for example they only feel ‘anxious’ at home with their family, but at work they feel fine.

If that’s the case, I will often say, why don’t you just be the person you are ‘at work’ when you’re at home with the family?

This usually meets with a puzzled look and a reply of ‘I don’t know, I’ve never really thought about it like that before’.

Our Identity is Transient

This is an interesting point and worth thinking about a bit.

Many people believe that ‘who they truly are’ is some sort of ‘genetic’ or ‘hard-wired’ feature of their biology and that the other ‘identity’ that has the skill to cope with problems is somehow ‘made-up’ and not who they really ‘are’.

Whilst this might ‘feel’ true, the fact is that our ‘true’ identity is ‘constructed’ (socially constructed) as the result of many different factors in our lives, including:

• Our early developmental experiences in childhood
• The ‘way’ we think about ourselves
• The way we have processed, or continue to process, the experiences we have each day
• Our degree of ‘resilience’
• Our social ‘connectedness’
• Who we ‘aspire’ to be and who we want people to ‘think’ we are

In this sense, we all, to a greater or lesser extent, ‘create’ the identity we want people to ‘see’ and respond to.

We’ve all come across this before in the expression ‘the mask we wear’ or what is known within the realm of Social Psychology, as our ‘performance’ on the ‘social stage’.

The fact is that ALL of the identities that we create and use are really who we are!

If You Can Fool the Masses Why Can’t You Fool Yourself?

Identity Integration, from a problem solving perspective, is about locating those aspects of your identity that ‘work’ for you (such as coping with Stress or Anxiety) and eliminating, or changing, those elements of your identity that don’t ‘serve’ you well, such as ‘worrying what other people think of you’ for example.

Often, these ‘unhelpful’ characteristics are ‘bound-up’ in one identity rather than another with many people believing that they are unable to take advantage of those skills in certain social situations (like at work or at home) because those skills ‘exist’ in an identity that isn’t who they ‘really’ are!

The good news, however, is that having helped many people to ‘integrate’ all of their multi-faceted identities into just the one, coherent and consistent identity, that life’s outcome can be dramatically improved along with a greater sense of ‘self’.

Free Initial Consultations for Identity Integration Issues

We offer all prospective clients an initial consultation to discuss your mental health problems prior to commencing any counselling.

The consultation is free and lasts around 50 minutes.

During this consultation we will discuss the various types of psychological therapy that are available to you and make a considered recommendation based on your individual personal circumstances.

Initial consultations are also available as part of our online counselling service.

At Tranceform Psychology we emphasise the importance of the therapy relationship in helping people to bring about effective change, so its important to be able to ‘meet’ to discuss our change programmes BEFORE proceeding.

Our policy is to help people make a fully balanced & considered decision about undertaking mental health work with us, including both the financial and personal implications.